My name is Suja Vaidyanathan and I am the mother of Vikram’s children, two boys ages 5 and 7. Vikram’s tragic passing has been incredibly difficult for our family. Before his passing, I was the primary caregiver for the children and Vikram supported us financially. Now I will play both roles. In order to support my role as the caregiver, we lived a scaled back life. The mortgage payment and health insurance costs amount to $5000/month. I set the fundraising goal at one year’s worth of expenses.
Any funds you contribute will be used for basic living costs for Vikram’s children. It is hard for this independent woman to ask for financial help but your contribution would help greatly in supporting the children. Thank you for your generous contribution- you can be assured your gift will be spent prudently.
There’s more to every story. Vikram was a complex person and our relationship was equally complex. We are married but have lived separate lives for a few years. The pressures of two high-stress careers, raising young children and some incompatibilities took a toll on our marriage. We could have worked through one or two of these pressure but our relationship couldn’t take all three.
The years we lived separately were actually some of the best times we had together. We drifted into a pattern of me taking care of the kids so he could focus on his grueling work and travel schedule. We were highly supportive of each other’s life goals. His life goal was to make entrepreneurship a part of higher education across all disciplines, not just technology. My life goal is to drop my kids off at school and pick them up every day while pursuing my entrepreneurial passion in the time I had left between dropoff and pickup.
I can’t understate how much the kids adored Vikram. Although I didn’t like this dynamic, he was the parent that did the fun stuff with the kids on the weekends while I made sure they did their homework, took baths and helped with household chores. Vikram introduced the kids to robotics, Rubik's cubes, cricket, and cooking. They loved going to his house and especially loved the maker space he created, the plants growing under the UV lights and his cat. Children grieve differently than adults and with professional help and support from family, friends and the community, I know they will live happy, satisfying and purposeful lives.
Right now our world has been turned upside down and I am heartbroken at the thought of a life without Vikram. An immediate priority is maintaining normalcy for the kids. We still participate in the same kids' activities, birthday parties, and even go to Vikram’s house on the same days as before. I also have an intense desire to document Vikram’s life, tell his story and keep his memory alive for the kids and myself. I am still in shock about how a brilliant, caring person like Vikram could be taken so early. Beyond that, I’m just not sure about what comes next.
Thank you for reading this and caring about Vikram.