Update

“On this New Year’s Day, Pam was called home to be with Christ. Though we grieve, we find comfort knowing she is at peace and out of pain. May we find strength and healing in the hope of being reunited one day.”

If you’re able, please consider donating or sharing this message to help with her final expenses. Your kindness and support mean so much during this difficult time.

Hi everyone, my name is Patti and I am reaching out on behalf of my sister-in-law, Pam, and my brother, Richard. They would never ask for help so I am.

Pam is battling end stage cancer starting as anal and spreading to her lungs and bones.

Our hope is to raise enough so Richard can focus solely on Pam, without worrying about how to pay the bills during this precious time. Any amount you can donate is extremely welcome and makes all the difference. If everyone contributes a little, the final impact is huge!

Please share this campaign with your friends and family—the act of sharing is already an invaluable donation in itself.

Thank you so much for your support, prayers, and love.

Here is a message on Pam's behalf:

For most of you who know me, I am a very private person. However, life is putting me in a different situation. Going on 6 years now, I have been battling what started as anal cancer that went to my lungs and now labeled as Stage 4 lung cancer. There is no cure. Every possible treatment and surgery have been done. So, I will not be winning this fight.

I want to let everyone know how important they are to me. I have had a lot of laughs and tears with you and over the years I would like to say life lessons from all of you and thank you for each and every one of them.

I want to say a special thank you to my partner and best friend Richard Alster who has been my life savior, protector who never wants to leave me and looks after me like no one ever could. My mother (Martha), bless her heart will now have to witness another (3rd) child being buried as well as helping take care of me. I also want my boys Nick and Jordan to know I appreciate all the work and love you to do from so far away. Not just you but your wives and my grandchildren. It means the world to me.

And I want to thank each and every one of you that has donated, sent messages, prayers and love.

Once you rip off the band aid and say it out loud there are no words to say just memories flooding your mind and tears that there won't be anymore and a sadness that words could never cover.