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Support a sister to give birth in safety!

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Beloved Community,

We are seeking to raise an initial £2000 to support a sister in need, and I know together, we can do it.

In the tapestry of life, there are threads of hardship and threads of hope, interwoven in the most intricate of patterns. My name is Laura and I am the Founder of Sacred Sister Community. Today, I come to you with a story that embodies both, a story of resilience and the enduring power of a mothers love for her children.

Meet a remarkable woman, a sister whose journey has been marked by trials that would test the strongest of spirits. Yet, her essence, her story, speaks volumes of courage, perseverance, and the unyielding pursuit of a better tomorrow.

I am putting this call out to our sisterhood and beyond to support a woman who has found herself in a situation that means she is no longer in her home country, nor is it safe for her to return at present. She is 36 weeks pregnant, with very little financial support, and no family and females around her to lean into at this time.

This sister, who shall not be named here for safety and legal reasons, has been on a crazy journey, one which no woman should have to go through, least of all a woman who has struggled with mental health most of her life, came from a traumatic background, and has spent a lot of time being deeply misunderstood, mis-guided, and let down by the authorities that should have been there to protect her and her children.

In the shortest version possible, this sister did not have an easy childhood, there was no real stability in her life, with the breakdown of her parents marriage, an alcoholic mother, and competitive relationships with her siblings, all of whom were in a similar situation, giving way to lots of self abuse and trouble in their teen years.

This woman is a super talented, articulate, academic. She is a songwriter and sings with the most heartfelt of voices.

In her twenties as a bid to get away from home and find herself, she travelled to Morocco, there she met and fell in love with the guy who was to become the father of her two daughters. Following the birth of her first born, she returned to Morocco where she raised her daughter in the family unit. When she was pregnant with her second child, she returned to the UK to birth, and at that time her relationship with the father was not good. Returning to morocco, now with two daughters, she found herself increasingly lonely, exhausted and could feel her mental health in decline.

She made the choice to return to the UK, turning to her only family, she was forced to leave her eldest daughter whilst she was placed in the care of a mother and baby psychiatric unit. On leaving the unit, she returned home to her mothers, which was a toxic environment, and she quickly sought to find a family home for herself and her girls. Local enough to have support, but space so that she could parent in her own way.

Her girls were doing well, they were well cared for, perhaps not in the same way that tradition would have us believe, but with a care for the environment, no chemicals at home, organic foods etc. This was seen as radical by a conventional family.

In January 2019 this sister was sectioned against her will, her children were placed in the care of her mother and sister, and this was to be the start of the deepest and darkest story. When this sister finally got out of the hospital several months later, a court order had been put in place, removing all access to her children other than via social services, and a non-molestation order had been granted to her mother and sister, meaning that this woman could not go within a certain radius of the family home, where her children were being brought up by two women she not only did not trust, but were part of the trauma of her past. Imagine a Lion who's cubs had been taken away, of course she wanted to fight, to roar. But she didn't for a long time, she followed all the advice given to her. She stayed away, went though social services for all visits, and had her heart broken, over and over.

A long court battle ensued, and her family won full custody of her children. The court in this case, seriously failed this mother and her children. For a short while, social services continued to arrange visits, remembering that there was a court order in place banning her from any contact with her family, so she could not send birthday cards to the house, she couldn't visit, she couldn't call, no contact!

Over this time, her family also withdrew all contact from the people that knew the girls, nobody who had any access to this sister was allowed any contact with the daughters, it was a mess. By this time the girls were still very young 13 months and 4.

Fast forward, with no access to her children, and no way to communicate, of course the court orders were broken, she was arrested for trying to make contact with the family, she went round to the house to drop off a birthday card, this too ended in arrest, and she was held in remand for 6 months until her case was heard, experiencing the worst prison for females in the uk, placed on the worst wing of the prison amongst murderers, and serious offenders. For what, trying to get a birthday card to her girls after not being allowed to see them for years. Would any of us do the same, I am certain that I would.

Her mental health was still in decline, but something shifted in this time in solitude, when she came out of prison, she was ready to accept this was her life, until she could find out more about the law herself, and find a lawyer willing to take on the system, then it would never change. She then received a letter from the courts, to suggest they had missed something in her original trial and she would be expected back in court, this carried with it the very real possibility of more time in prison. So in a moment of what some would call rashness, or complete clarity knowing that she would not be able to cope again, she decided to take herself back to a place she could call home, a place where she knew herself to be well, where she knew she could live affordably, find work as a singer, and focus on her passion of songwriting.

She went to Morocco. This now means, that should she choose to return to the uk, there would likely be a warrant out for her arrest, and having skipped her court hearing, could possibly face a longer sentence. In the midst of this, she is now pregnant, yes, of course we may all sit in judgement of this sister, but against all odds, with a fail of contraception, whilst in a relationship, here she is. Of course she considered all her choices, on finding out she was expecting, but what mother, who was not able to be with her children would not feel that pull to bring another life into the world. The father of the child, decided to step out early on, so she was fully aware this would be a solo journey, one she is fully prepared for.

Her mental health is well in Morocco, the sun shines every day, her life is in a good place, she has a home, good people around her, mostly men. She is craving a sisterhood of support, but more importantly to birth her child in a safe, loving, kind environment.

She cannot come back to the UK, the risk is too high of arrest and her baby being taken from her, so we are calling out here for any lawyers, legal bod's that may be able to help with information, so that she can be assured of her safety should she return.

She also needs to feel held, to deliver this baby safely. Her first birth was not straightforward and there was a lot of medical intervention which lead to an emergency c section and a fear of hospitals, as you can imagine, trusting the white coats is not easy. Her second child she birthed at home, with the support of a doula, and it was a simple and beautiful birth, which she was told by the medical profession could not happen.

She has managed to gain more information about birthing in Morocco, and she has found a beautiful Doula and Midwife, of course all healthcare is private so this will come at a cost, raising the funds herself right now in the heat of Morocco and the birth being so close is impossible.

SO SISTERS, can we show this woman some love. Weather you believe this to be the best outcome or not, there is a baby to consider, and a mumma that needs our love, help and financial support.

All funds raised will go directly into an account to be accessed only by our sister, so she can begin to feel this support immediately, and to make plans with the midwife etc this way she can feel safe enough to bring this new soul into the world with the love it deserves. This also helps to serve her being able to rest into this time, without added stress, that will support the basis of good mental health following the birth.

So much has changed for this sister, and she will never give up hope that one day she will have her girls back in her arms, even if she could just get to visit. She doesn't even know what they look like now, how they have grown, if they are doing well in school, can you imagine this, it makes my heart break as a mum every time I think if it. They are now 6 & 9, and they have not seen their mumma since February 2020. I am sure being well looked after, that is my hope. But how do we know, really, without any contact. This is what this sister lives with every day in her heart following her own upbringing with the same women entrusted with the care of her own children.

It is here, dear friends, that our paths converge, where the strength of community meets the call of compassion. Together, we have the power to rewrite her narrative, to imbue her journey with the love, support, and care it so richly deserves.

With your incredible kindness, we aim to provide her with the means to welcome her child into the world with grace and dignity. Your donations will directly support the vital services of a compassionate doula and midwife, ensuring her journey to motherhood is safe and empowering. But beyond practical assistance, your contributions are a lifeline of hope, a testament to our shared humanity. They serve as a powerful reminder that in moments of vulnerability, we are never alone. Your generosity will illuminate her path and offer sustenance through the trials ahead.

Together, let's answer the call of compassion and become guardians of her light. Let's weave a tapestry of love and support that transcends borders and lifts her spirit in her journey toward motherhood. Your support is not just a donation; it's a declaration of solidarity with a sister in need. Join us in granting her the chance to birth her child with love and security. Your contribution, no matter the size, will make a meaningful difference in her life. Let's unite in this shared mission to provide her with the support she deserves. Together, we can ensure her journey is filled with hope, strength, and the warmth of community.

If you wish to leave a message of support you can do so here, or drop an email and she will receive all of your loving messages.

Thank You in advance for your donations and support, my heart sings that we have an opportunity to truly make a difference.

Much love and blessings

Laura Ireland
Founder of Sacred Sister
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Donations 

  • kim roberts
    • £10
    • 5 mos
  • Rachelle Strauss
    • £10
    • 5 mos
  • Claire Empson
    • £10
    • 5 mos
  • Anonymous
    • £10
    • 5 mos
  • Katie Marsh
    • £10
    • 5 mos
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Laura Ireland
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Laura Exton
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