Starting new after domestic abuse

My name is Rachel. I have been with a man for almost 4 years. I thought I was going to be with him forever. About a year and a half ago, he started abusing prescription drugs to try and stop drinking alcohol. He’s never been violent before, until he started taking the meds and mixing them with alcohol. That was the night he choked me. 


I thought it was okay because “he was just struggling”. I stayed by his side and tried to help him get clean. That’s when he started manipulating me. I was so influenced by his words that I couldn’t see through the smooth talk. 

“I will go to rehab, I will never hurt you again”

Thats when it started in with the mental abuse.

“You’re not attractive because you gained weight”(I started comforting myself with unhealthy foods and stopped going out with my family and friends)
“you’re lazy because you stay up late and sleep in” (I would be woken up constantly when he was drunk and yelling at me)
”you’re going nowhere in life.”
“You should have immediately got a new job when you lost yours. There’s plenty out there” (I lost my job due to what’s happening in the world right now)

The list goes on and on... when he broke his foot by stomping on my phone, I took care of him. When he pinned me to the bed as I tried to leave, I acted in self defense and kicked him.. he then called the police because I hit him trying to get him off of me. 3 weeks later he convinced me to move to a new state with him. 


I know I should have left sooner, I wish I would’ve had the resources and strength. But I have finally left him. 


With leaving, I have no bed and no money for an apartment. Luckily an old friend of mine reached out and gave me a place to sleep on the couch temporarily. 


I am asking for money to get back on my feet. I would like to get an apartment and a bed. I willneed kitchen supplies, bathroom supplies, etc. Anything helps

I am actively looking for a job in my field (working with children who have autism), but until I find work in this difficult time, I am asking for help. 

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