<div>A few weeks ago, a friend said something to me that I haven't been able to shake.
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<div>"<strong><em>If you notice I'm not active on Substack for 48 hours, something is wrong</em></strong>."
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<div>She wasn't being dramatic. She was giving me the only alarm system she had.
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<div>I told her finding out two days later wasn't good enough. So I started researching.
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<div>I looked into wellness check networks - local volunteers who can physically show up if someone goes silent. I researched Tennessee's domestic violence resources and emergency housing options. I asked her for her husband's name, his employer, his physical description, and her family's phone numbers. I found an app - disguised as a news feed - that lets a woman quietly alert her emergency contacts the moment she feels unsafe, without her abuser seeing her do it.
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<div>I built her a safety net for the worst case.
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<div>Then I asked myself: what gets her out of the worst case entirely?
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<div>That's what this is.
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<div>My friend is a mother of two young children. She is leaving a marriage to a man we have reason to believe is dangerous. She has gathered the courage to begin divorce proceedings. She has a job waiting for her in Tennessee. She has a plan.
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<div>What she cannot do is return to the home where he is.
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<div>He has not left. He is sending messages that run the length of books. He has already weaponized the police against her - calling them while she was visiting her own father, with her own children, doing nothing wrong. The police confirmed she had done nothing wrong. He called them on her anyway.
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<div><strong>She returns in 8 days.</strong>
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<div>When I researched Tennessee's resources, I believed I would find solutions. I was wrong.
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<div>Emergency housing requires documented police reports showing active, physical harm. She doesn't have that - not because she isn't in danger, but because the danger hasn't yet crossed the threshold the system recognizes.
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<div>The standard waitlist for transitional housing in her area: two years.
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<div>The emergency waitlist: two to six months - and only if she can produce the police documentation she doesn't have.
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<div>She is not unhoused. She is displaced by danger, with a job and a future already in place. The gap is housing, not hope.
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<div>According to the ACLU, 46% of unhoused women have reported staying in abusive relationships because they had nowhere else to turn. This is why. Not because they lack courage. Because the system was built to respond to a crisis after it erupts - not to catch the woman able to see it coming and get out before it does.
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<div>On a single day in 2023 alone, more than 7,000 requests from domestic violence survivors for shelter and housing went unmet - not because the need wasn't real, but because the resources don't exist.
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<div>She is not a failure of the system. She is in a gap the system created.
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<div>She cannot rent without proof of income. She has income coming - just not yet. The catch-22 is complete.
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<div>This campaign will fund short-term housing in Tennessee - a furnished place with a door that locks, an address he doesn't have access to - for approximately 90 days. Long enough for her first paychecks to arrive. Long enough to qualify for a lease. Long enough to get her children settled without looking over her shoulder inside her own home.
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<div>Every dollar goes directly to housing costs.
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<div>I built her a check-in system. I found her a safety app. I researched what to do if she went silent. It’s not enough.
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<div>What I actually want is for none of that to be necessary.
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<div>A safe place to live is the only intervention that works upstream of everything else. It is the difference between a woman who has to be rescued and a woman who never needed rescuing.
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<div><strong>She did the hard part. She left. Help us make sure she has somewhere safe to land.</strong>
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