We first decided to start our family in 2015, a year into our marriage. I got pregnant right away, and six weeks later I miscarried. Getting pregnant was easy, so we had faith to keep trying. But trying resulted in four more losses over the course of 18 months - each pregnancy bringing us closer to the end of the first trimester without success. Each plus sign triggered a curious mix of hope, joy, anxiety, and fear.
I've always taken pride in my resilience, but this brand of grief knocked me down like a bully. In the aftermath, I felt like Michigan J. Frog: high-functioning at work, low-functioning at home. I was a stranger to myself.
Rick and I leaned on each other along the way. And sometimes we didn't. We prayed and we cried to God and sometimes onto our family and friends. Days, months and years blurred, but we healed and we're still healing.
Processing our grief was an important step in opening our hearts to other options. And now we are able to walk joyfully towards adoption.
Apply for our home study ($1,000) and make our 1st of five payments to the adoption agency ($6,500). The adoption process is expensive, like crazy expensive. Our savings alone is not enough and my employer does not provide paid leave for adoptive staff. We need the help of your donations so that we can start a family without debt.
How will my donation help you to adopt?
There are many steps in the adoption process, each requiring professional guidance from social workers, medical professionals, and lawyers, plus time away from work (without paid adoptive maternity leave). Here are some of the major expenses that your donations will help to cover:
Home study evaluations, preparing and marketing our family profile, pre-matching visits, birth mother counseling and education about the adoption process, birth mother medical expenses, case management of birth mother living expenses, legal advice, adoption finalization, court fees, and post-placement visits and services.
When is this happening?
Our goal is to expand our family within the next year. At the agency we've selected, birth parents are matched with adoptive parents within six to 12 months. (WHAT?) I know. I'm squealing too.
Thank you for supporting this next journey in our life. We welcome your encouragement, love, prayers, virtual and audible praise dances, GIFs, and emojis. We will keep our village informed of our progress as we move towards becoming parents!
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