reunite destiny with her children
Hello, my name is Destiny Benedict, you may know me as the girl from the most hated man on the internet netflix documentary, but if you dont, thats okay too.
One of the hardest and bravest things I did was go onto TV and open up about my trauma. But I felt I was laughed off as if I wasn't a victim, in many corners of the internet and no, I did not get paid to participate. I have wanted to be in my older 3 children's lives, but I have been scared to fight in court because I have a heart condition. I would like to raise funds to cover court fees, transpo costs, creating a large, stable and healthy environment.
I have been alienated from my first 3 children, I had my first child at 15/16 years old and my second at about 18/19 years old. Both with the first guys I had serious relationships with, I was raised in a small town, so them and their families grew up together and conspired to push me out of the picture entirely while I was seeking treatment for severe postpartum. I speculate that some of the incidents that occured online worked to their benefit to further victimize me and resulted in my dad's side of the family helping them instead of me. I advocate for mental health so strongly for this reason, with the right support and compassion, I feel this wouldn't have happened. I should have put my energy into myself and not other guys, but I digress.
The third child I realize I haven't spoken much about, I flew away after the website stuff happened to try to get a new start. I wanted to obtain a license, pursue a modelling career and I thought I had support where I was going. I was 19 years old and went to stay with an intimate friend that i met from the site... Mind you, I've met all of my significant others online... my first two baby dads were no exception, I met them on myspace, this was not uncommon for me, as I was new to the Norhtern California area, I am neurodivergent and I find comfort in chatting online before getting to know someone in person. When I flew out to meet this person, it became hostile overtime, I moved away to Vegas and found out I was pregnant and decided to try again. Turns out his mother couldn't have children anymore due to a hysterectomy and was manipulating me to incubate this child for her to raise. (I have a source who reached out and verified that this was the plan and a long story I'll share, if you're interested) She is also in connection with my dad's side of the family who is tied to my first 2 children I was absolutely oblivious at the time, I just wanted to be loved and have a family finally, but hindsight is 20/20. I was basically "Britney Spears'd" for months in another state, until she obtained custody successfully. This resulted in me feeling suicidal because I thought something was wrong with me, but it turns out I just wasn't around the right support system and others' failed me. Which repeated itself until I decided to put my mental health first and educate myself by studying psychology.
I was treated very unfairly by many of the people and their families that I chose to have children with, I did not deserve to be shut out and abused the way that I was. I am a kind-hearted person and a decent mother, even just having me present in their lives would've sufficed, but they would have rather spread lies/rumors and destroyed my character. I haven't spoken up about this in detail because it's hard to call out the people I once loved for treating me poorly and being scared of suffering the consequences. Who knows what they can do? Say? Look what has already happened when I didn't speak up for so many years....
I can't hold my tongue forever. I want to have a life set up for my children and them to be able to meet the siblings that I currently raise. I want to welcome them into my nice home with open arms, I want to offer them the best life imaginable and allow them to know me for who I actually am, not what has been said about me...
It will be up to them to say yes or no to being in my life, which is ok, but I will always be their biological mother and if I can pursue having the funds to upkeep the best life and the safest space for them, its a good start. I am not, by any means, wealthy or close to it. In fact, I've grown up low-income and the family that did have money to spare to help, turned their backs on me.
So this is part of my healing journey, you may donate, share, tell your friends, family, hell, tell the people who wronged me. Just know I am here and I am not going to stop becoming the best person and safest place for my children to come home to, at any time, any age, I will keep trying until the day I die.
Your support would mean the world to me and help me pave a better future for all 6 of my children.