<div>Hello everyone,
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<div>My name is <strong>Natalie Vanance</strong>, although I go by '<strong>Bekka</strong>' to many of my friends.
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<div>I am a 47-year-old transgender woman, and for most of the last 5 years I was a <strong>committed stay-at-home mother to my daughter</strong>, who is non-verbal and has diagnosed special needs. During this time, I lived with my daughter, and my (now ex-)partner, in their parents' house, in our own private basement suite.
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<div>Due to a criminal incident in September where I was the victim, I was forced to move away from my daughter, with no resources or savings. <strong>My now ex-partner has decided to dissolve our engagement, and our relationship since that attack. </strong>
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<div>I did not realize how badly the incident would affect me, and I have been diagnosed by my NP with <strong>heavily increased anxiety and depression </strong>and <strong>often find myself scared</strong>, or extremely anxious when I need to leave my new apartment. It is likely I have some form of PTSD, although I do not have a full diagnosis at this time.
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<div><strong>I do not know how long it will be until I can rejoin the work force,</strong> nor how long it will take me to recover from the trauma of the incident, so I will be living on my own with <strong>no resources</strong> outside of basic government assistance payments, and a stipend provided by my ex.
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<div>Funds that are sent to be will be used to pay for my <strong>groceries, utilities, and medications</strong> that I need that are not covered under Canadian medical plans or assistance (such as my <strong>Estradiol, essential to my transition</strong>).
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<div>Additionally, as <strong>many of my clothes do not fit</strong> do to a recent significant weight loss, I will need a new wardrobe of basics, so I will feel move confident and secure leaving the house. I will also be using funds for my laser treatments, so I can properly pass for <strong>my safety</strong>. I hope this will also allow me to move back into my career when I have had the time I need to heal.
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<div>I have incurred<strong> significant debts</strong> due to my inability to work since the attack in September, as well as expenses due to my emergency solo move, so when possible, I will use funds to keep the payments current so I can continue to take advantage of emergency credit instruments if needed (<strong>I have currently maxxed everything out</strong>).
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<div><strong>I need to be around for my daughter</strong>, I need to survive this so I can be back in her life. <strong>I need to be a mother for her</strong>, the mother I always wanted for myself. To do that, I need stability, security, and safety so I can heal.
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<div><strong>Thank you everyone. Truly.</strong>
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