Fighting for our Son!!
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I’m not sure where to start with this whole thing, but I guess I’ll start at the beginning of our story. A year ago I met this wonderful man, Troy. I had never dated a guy with kids before, mostly due to the fact that I never wanted to be a mom. I guess I just have never felt the need that other women have and I’ve always just never saw myself in that role. But I decided to broaden my search to find my soul mate & along came Troy, a guy with 2 kids. A few months following, I met his kids. Tj (Troy Jr.) seemed to like me despite the fact I was scared to death. We spent a couple days getting to know each other. And then a lot of time since, becoming his second mom. My life was turned upside down when I fell in love with a man and his son. Over this last year, I have begun to learn what it means to be a mom. As I worry about him & his safety, & I’m always trying to teach him well, support him & be a good role model of compassion, support and love. A year later & here we are. Finally Troy and I are on our own 2 feet together. We both have jobs and a house (big enough for us and Tj).
Oh I forgot to mention that I also learned this year about exes and in particular Troy’s ex (Tj’s mom). Tj lives with his mom & we get to have him every other weekend. Sunday nights have gotten harder and harder to face, as I know that Tj goes home and it’s another 2 weeks before he comes back. Anyways back to his mom. He loves his mom and I’m sure she thinks she is doing what’s best for him, but as an outsider who loves Tj, I see things a bit differently. Hockey is #1 for Tj, in her eyes and his. In her world that’s all that matters. School takes a second fiddle. Tj is failing numerous classes. She nags him to do better and has Troy talk to him about doing better, she even groundshim from his electronics to get through to him, but then keeps him out past 10 every night to play and tryout for hockey. She doesn’t help him or participate to make sure he is getting help and getting his homework done. We can help him with his school work. And are able to be there to make sure he’s getting his homework done and build him and make sure he does better in school, because at 14 years old, school should be #1!
I also see how he, Tj, acts when he arrives at our house on Friday night and the boy we send home on Sunday. His self-confidence grows in the few days that he is with us, & he begins to shine. We spend our weekends showing him compassion and building him up. She has a tendency to always compare him to others and tell him that he needs to be more like or play hockey like so and so.
So now that Troy and I are more settled and able to provide, we want to get custody of Tj. And Tj wants to live with his dad and experience his dad for that last few years of childhood he has. Tj also sees this as an opportunity to learn what it takes to be a man, from his dad. Troy and I have seen a lawyer and the lawyer thinks we have a good chance at getting Tj, but the cost is way above our budget and what we can afford. This is a fight that we want to take on for the betterment of our son, but we need your help!!!
Oh I forgot to mention that I also learned this year about exes and in particular Troy’s ex (Tj’s mom). Tj lives with his mom & we get to have him every other weekend. Sunday nights have gotten harder and harder to face, as I know that Tj goes home and it’s another 2 weeks before he comes back. Anyways back to his mom. He loves his mom and I’m sure she thinks she is doing what’s best for him, but as an outsider who loves Tj, I see things a bit differently. Hockey is #1 for Tj, in her eyes and his. In her world that’s all that matters. School takes a second fiddle. Tj is failing numerous classes. She nags him to do better and has Troy talk to him about doing better, she even groundshim from his electronics to get through to him, but then keeps him out past 10 every night to play and tryout for hockey. She doesn’t help him or participate to make sure he is getting help and getting his homework done. We can help him with his school work. And are able to be there to make sure he’s getting his homework done and build him and make sure he does better in school, because at 14 years old, school should be #1!
I also see how he, Tj, acts when he arrives at our house on Friday night and the boy we send home on Sunday. His self-confidence grows in the few days that he is with us, & he begins to shine. We spend our weekends showing him compassion and building him up. She has a tendency to always compare him to others and tell him that he needs to be more like or play hockey like so and so.
So now that Troy and I are more settled and able to provide, we want to get custody of Tj. And Tj wants to live with his dad and experience his dad for that last few years of childhood he has. Tj also sees this as an opportunity to learn what it takes to be a man, from his dad. Troy and I have seen a lawyer and the lawyer thinks we have a good chance at getting Tj, but the cost is way above our budget and what we can afford. This is a fight that we want to take on for the betterment of our son, but we need your help!!!
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Taryn Pile
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Allendale, MI
