Four and half years ago, it was decided it was time for my Dad to go to a care facility. Then a few months later, it was determined that my Mom needed to be in a care facility. Both of my parents have dementia and a few months after my Mom went to a care facility she was diagnosed with Parkinson's. The Parkinson's diagnosis explained the gradual changes we saw in Mom over the years.
I had moved my mom a few times. Trying to find the right facility for her. I finally decided the care facility my Dad was in, was the best choice for Mom. They are in separate wings. Dad doesn't remember her and Mom doesn't want to see him. It would be very agitating for both of them if they did see each other.
Two years ago, the facility applied to be a facility that would accept medicaid. Then a year ago, the Corporation changed their mind. No money left to move and start over with private pay, the facility said there would be a discount. I still haven't seen this.
Corporate knew I was applying for VA pension. My Dad served through the Army in the Korean war. It's a long process of paperwork. The care bills are really getting big. It's a very small amount I am able to provide through my Dad's income for both parents. There will be back pay from the VA, but Corporate is getting nervous because what we owe is so large now. I'm hoping with donations, it will help enough until the VA pension comes through.
I retired some years ago and never got the part-time job I was going to do. So only in small ways I have been able to help. My mom just needed some new hearing aids. My parents don't have money for this. I put hearing aids on my charge card. I'll have to make monthly payments. I've always been there for my parents. Doctor's appointments, emergency room visits, shopping, laundry, etc. I see them almost every day.
My Dad has been on hospice since February. I check on him and assist him when needed at meals. My Mom is getting physical and occupational therapy. I'm there for every therapy appointment, so I can learn and then walk and exercise with her.
Any assistance you can provide would be greatly appreciated.