Help Ophi Escape an Abusive Household

Hello hello, I'm Ophelia. I'm a queer trans woman who's been trapped in an abusive, toxic, and neglectful household for the entirety of my life. I recently turned 18 which has given me the opportunity to finally leave but, unfortunately, because of my parents' hold on me I am unable to begin my journey to safety. I was never allowed to drive or even get a permit and, therefore, am struggling to find permanent employment as well as fulfill my basic needs. 

I can't remember the last time I've gone to the doctor or dentist despite having many debilitating issues with my basic functions, such as sleep and constant soreness (among many other things). I've had sleeping problems since middle school which has affected my attendance and have been blamed and guilted as a result of it, despite the fact that they have done nothing to assist in remedying. They have gone as far as to say that there is no such thing as a sleep doctor and that nothing can be done for me, even doing such drastic measures as lying on my medical documents while I was growing up and making me believe that things like this are normal. All of their gaslighting has caused me to conceal other medical conditions I experience in my life, including most of my symptoms of autism, and even telling me that I don't actually have it after multiple formal diagnoses. At some point, they made an attempt to convince me my chronic depression was directly caused by me dating women and interacting with others in general.  They downplay all of my traumatic experiences, calling me overdramatic and saying that there's something wrong with me because of how my autism manifests in everyday situations, and constantly dealing with this has caused my mental health to drastically be negatively affected. They are extremely verbally aggressive, often defaulting to anger and screaming when in conversation or towards normal inconsequential mistakes that have no effect on them, especially when they see that the person in question is already in emotional distress. They have always casually used slurs, even towards young children, to the point that I thought words such as racial slurs were slang and used in normal conversation.  I was only able to realize these were extremely harmful terms when I was given the freedom to do my own research after years of unknowingly using them. I strongly believe that I am experiencing PTSD as a result of all of their abuse, but am still unable to receive professional help.

Ever since I came out as trans, things have only escalated in the time of my life where the most positive growth was supposed to be occurring. They make every effort to discredit my identity, locking me in my room when guests are over while lying to them for the reason that they don't see me outside of my room, deadnaming me, and refusing to use my pronouns knowing full well that it distresses me. The level of neglect I experience on the daily has put me in such a position that I have even considered putting myself in possibly unsafe situations to relieve my pain, now I'm at another breaking point and cannot wait any longer to create a life that I feel happy and safe in. In order to begin supporting myself and receive the help I need, I would have to start out with a decent amount of money because I am building my new life from what is truly the ground up. Moving to any capacity is difficult, but is especially difficult for me because I am unable to drive or currently keep a steady job so most of the funds would be going to assist with that, as well as giving me a small leg up regarding rent. If there is any left after I move it will go towards my emergency medical expenses, including helping get treatment for my PTSD.  

It would mean the world to me if you could donate to my cause or share this page with someone who may be able to. Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to read this and help a trans woman in need, it means more than you know. :)


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Ophelia Roche 
Southampton, PA

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