My Best Friend's Dying Wish

I start this note with a lump in my throat, a very heavy heart, and an emptiness that is hard to put into words.  I am not confident I am comfortable using this venue, but I am under a time constraint and hope you find it in your heart to help.

I received a text from my best friend asking if I could talk. He never asks. He just calls. Immediately, I knew something was wrong.

He called via FaceTime and we shared some laughs as we always do and then he looked away and got really quiet. After a few uncomfortable moments of silence, he, still looking away, told me he was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer of the esophagus, stomach, and kidneys. My best friend is dying. He is only 44 years old. He has always been like a brother to me. We are inseparable.

I paused, sick to my stomach, and asked him what I can do. I asked what he needs/wants from me. He said, in his classic style, "buddy, I do not need anything. I do not want anything. I just want you to know I have been dreading making this phone call to you and I am sorry I could not tell you in person but I need to ensure you hear this from me and only me." We cried and talked about what happens next. We cried some more and he told me that he wants to live life until its over....the way he always has. Another 30 minutes or so then we hung up and I lose it.....crying. I am a mess but know I need to be strong for my brother.

As I am lying in bed last night, I remember him begging me for years to take him to Lambeau Field to watch the Packers play. For whatever reason, we just never booked that guys trip to Green Bay. My best friend does not need or want anything. He is a simple, proud guy that deserves that his best friend sends him out with everything he wants but will not ask for right now.

I only have a small window of opportunity before the doctors say the cancer will really take over. I am not sure what to ask for or what more to say, so I'll just tell you what will put a smile on his face, my best friends face. How I will remember him. I want him to travel to Green Bay and finally check off this item from his Bucket List. I want him to be to be on a high and have him forget about the medical issues for a weekend. I kick myself now for not planning this trip until now and I humbly ask that you help me make it right with my brother.

With tears in my eyes I ask for your consideration in helping me show him that I love him and want to give him everything I can even though he is too proud to ask for anything.

The funds will go directly to his flight, hotel, Packers Hall of Fame tour, Lambeau Field Tour, and, since I am being honest, for beer to toast the weekend.

-Matt-

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