Should you ever be faced with the sorrowful reality of child loss, where would you prefer to bury your child?
Shared Memorial Plots
The dignity of remembrance in funeral ritual.
Miscarried Moms For Life seeks to provide our babies with the same type of dignity and respect that other deceased older humans receive—a memorial space. In II Samuel 21, we read about the great lengths Rizpah went to in order to protect the bodies of her two sons until they were given a burial. For months, she guarded the bodies of her sons until word got around to King David about her heart, and he had their bodies buried.
Validation (not minimization) facilitates the grieving process.
A side note for others: Please do not refer to our dead children to our faces as dead tissue, medical waste, products of conception, or as anything less than our dead children. You may think you are lessening our grief by attempting to minimize the significance of our loss, but your specific medical terminology (or poor choice of words) do nothing to validate our loss and our grief, which, coincidentally, exasperatingly handicaps our ability to grieve in a healthy way. Instead, try weeping with those of us who weep. Our babies deserve better than to be flushed down the toilet like some used tampon or a bowel movement. And our babies deserve better than to be hauled off like some used needles or some tumors removed from cancer patients.
Sharing resources—coming together in our common grief.
Miscarried Moms For Life realizes providing each miscarried or stillborn child with their own memorial plot would be cost-prohibitive; however, pooling resources to acquire shared spaces is feasible, with adequate support. Over time, with the help of many generous supporters, we can place a site in cities in each of the 48 continental states (and perhaps further) where families can gather and memorialize their beloved baby in a way similar to having closure in the burial of our adult loved ones.
Shared, yet individualized.
While the details as to what the sites would look like and how they would function may vary by cemetery regulations, there will be a marker indicating the nature of the gravesite. There will also be a place for parents to place a personalized, painted rock to represent their baby. [Many of us—for whatever reason—do not have a body to actually place in a grave, but we can use a rock about the size of a fist to memorialize our children.]
Forgiveness, compassion, and remembrance.
At the foot of this gravesite (or perhaps at a separate gravesite), there will be another marker for the babies lost voluntarily. It is important for us, as Christians, to do this as a tangible expression of compassion. Extend forgiveness to women (and men) who aborted their children (or who learned their children were aborted) by sharing memorial space. They, too, will be welcomed to name their child and place a rock at the gravesite.
Learn more about this and other ministries at miscarriagemomsforlife.com [site under construction as of 1/3/19]. Miscarriage Moms For Life has received IRS recognition as a 501(c)3 charity.
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