Mary and Alex Surrogacy Fund

Cancer or gas? My boyfriend, Alex, and I had to find ways to laugh at the situation we faced. I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer when I was 31 years old -- Alex was by my side every step of the way. Now we are ready to start a new chapter in our lives and we need your help.

Alex and I met through work, but really hit it off after playing kickball against each other. I thought he was funny and charming, and we instantly connected on music, politics, and Netflix. I knew he was special, but little did I know he would turn out to be one of the most patient, kind, and compassionate people I would ever meet. 

In November 2013, Alex and I started dating. In May 2014, I earned my MBA in marketing from University of Portland. Then just two months later, I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer - stage 1C clear cell adenocarcinoma of the ovary, to be exact. Life came to a screeching halt. 

Over the course of the next six months, I had three surgeries and five chemotherapy treatments. My last surgery was a hysterectomy, which means I am unable to carry a pregnancy. Toward the end of my chemo treatments, I had a reaction to the chemo called pseudotumor cerebri. Basically, swelling in my optic nerves that left permanent damage to my eyesight. I was on so many medications that I kept a journal to track dates and times. I had so many MRIs and scans I started to remember the radiologists by name, and they remembered me. I kept my hospital bracelets on my fridge and they practically covered the fridge doors. It was a dark time but Alex never left my side.

We managed to get through hospital visits, diagnosis, surgeries and recoveries, chemo treatments, and hair loss (mine, not his). Having a family was so important to us that we fought doctors to allow us the time for fertility treatments between surgeries in order to preserve embryos. It was important to us to at least try to leave the door open for biological children in the future. Between surgery #2 and #3, good luck was on our side as we were successful in preserving embryos. As Alex likes to say, "The kids are chilling."

Now it has been 2.5 years since chemo ended, and almost four years of being together. It took a lot of work to get to where we are, and I'm proud to say we are happy and have a truly wonderful love and respect for one another. And even better, we are ready to start a family.

Alex and I both cherish the relationships we have with our own families, and we both value having our own some day.  We work hard and have saved a good chunk of the cost for a surrogate, however, it is still slightly out of reach. Although it can be uncomfortable to ask people for money, we are truly set on doing whatever it takes to start a family.

We appreciate any gift, big or small, to help us start our family. We look forward to sharing exciting news with you in the near future. Thank you for being part of our story.

Donations

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  • Kim Davis 
    • $50 
    • 33 mos
  • Anonymous 
    • $50 
    • 41 mos
  • Sybil Guggenheim 
    • $30 
    • 41 mos
  • Kayla Jacobs 
    • $40 
    • 41 mos
  • John Furey 
    • $100 
    • 41 mos
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Organizer

Mary Beebe 
Organizer
Portland, OR
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