Legal & Medical Fund for Queer Family at risk

In 2016 my sweet 4.5 year old child socially transitioned from male to female (with support of Lurie Childrens Gender Clinic). While the people who know her and our family this didn't come as a surprise as she had been telling us she is a girl since she could talk. Within 2 weeks of her transition the absolute worse thing you can imagine happened. Her biological father used excessive force to try to force her into 'boy' PJs and broke her arm. Her biological father has a history of issues with alcohol and comes from a Church of Christ conservative background that espouses homophobia and transphobia, so we knew there could  be an issue with the transition but we did not expect this. After he broke  her arm, then he gave her over the counter medications to drug her to sleep leaving her in that state for her nanny and myself to find. What makes this most important is that he was a forensic toxicologist to the medical examiner, so he had intimate knowledge as to how the medications he gave her worked.

After being arrested for a class X felony and being indicted he dragged his children for 2 years through a criminal case forcing her and her brother who watched this happen relive the situation. Through this I watched a happy child turn into a shell of a person. After years of therapy and love, she now has the strength to advocate for herself and other trans children.

In 2018, he plead guilty to a lesser charge with the help of his two teams of lawyers and being an upper class white male. During the trial, our son became very ill and was diagnosed with a rare, life threatening, genetic disease. They received no support from their biological father's family and instead were shamed my family for being trans and queer. I have committed my life to keeping my kids safe and healthy.

After years in court to finalize the divorce, he only managed to attend one court date. He is now trying to get visitation and custody of the children he hurt in a multitude of ways. He just recently began refusing to cover their health insurance, even though it is mandated in his parental responsibilities. Not having access to health care will likely result in the death of our son. The court system is refusing to to help us. Our judge and the counter counsel has continued to mis-gender and dead name our daughter and myself.

If the assaulted was an adult, they would not be forced to see their abuser and we would be standing behind them. These children need you behind them. This money is being raised to pay for the legal fees and medical care of my son. Thank you for taking the time to read this and support our queer family in need.

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Dee McCord 
Chicago, IL
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