Laur's Story

Laurlyn's story takes place in a 4 day span. She was a week late past her due date and had set up an appointment to be induced on Monday May 18th, 2020. On Saturday May 16th at night, she started to go into labour naturally. Her contractions had begun and she waited overnight prior to going to the hospital. She and her boyfriend at the time, had gone into the hospital, after their recommendation since she had lost some water, on that Sunday afternoon. They had sent her home after realizing that she wasn't dilated enough and they deemed her water lose "safe" for mommy and baby. On the Monday, she had gone into her original inducing appointment and since her labour started naturally, her doctor had sent her home. On Tuesday, she finally was admitted to the hospital around 11am and only three hours later was she given an epidural. She was in labour at the hospital at this point for 13 hours, not to mention her contraction started 3 days prior. She had inquired and then begged the doctors to have a c-section which they had finally agreed to noting that the natural birth was not going the way they had planned. 

The procedure for her c-section is what had caused her to go into cardiac arrest. They had given her a spinal tap and replaced her epidural with it. They asked her if she felt the pain and to her surprise she still did. Taking her by her word, they opted to give her another spinal tap without any delay in between. She has a small but not severe anxiety problem which she is on medication for. Her body had 3 doses of epidural in hersystem. They gave her another drug as well for the pain that we aren't certain what it was (we have yet to get a look at her documents). They gave her two spinas one after the other. Her heart essentially couldn't take the strain anymore. 

Emergency c-section took place. After the emergency c-section, Laurlyn went into a second cardiac arrest. Her daughter was ripped out of her in minutes time and rushed to the Montreal Children's Hospital. She came out feeling all the effects of the drugs, and Laurlyn being close to 42 weeks pregnant at the time of birth, the baby came out having intense seizures. The baby was incubated for several days and Laurlyn was in turn put into a medically induced coma. 

It took her a week to come out of the coma as her body was fighting the effects of the drugs. After she finally woke up, she was a different person. She could barely speak, her motor skills were gone, she was suffering from a type of amnesia which we later determined is long and short term memory loss. After further scans, they noticed a tear in the tissues in her brain due to the loss of oxygen during her two cardiac arrests. Her cerebellum and cortex were both affected. She then spent almost two months in a hospital, bed ridden and not able to care for herself nor her child. Then two more months in a rehabilitation center. She was able to relearn how to use her basic motor skills,  remember some past memories and hold on to the short term memories of everyday, walk and talk. She started to sing again and joke around with the VERY LIMITED VISITORS she was able to have contact with.

 She had a very long and strenuous delivery to say the least, with many mistakes we are still trying to understand and see what could have been prevented and if not, where can we go from here. 

Laurlyn is being cared for by her mother. Her mother has dropped everything in her own life in order to raise her granddaughter while her own daughter was in the hospital and rehabilitation. 

We aren't sure how permanent these effects are. The doctors aren't certain. The brain is a strong but mysterious organ. The doctors don't know how much oxygen she lost to her brain. They don't have any real answers for us. We just know that a young, vibrant 27-year old woman walked into the hospital to give birth, something that happens EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. and EVERY. SINGLE. MOMENT. of the day and she never walked out the same. 

Laurlyn's mother, Melinda, has since put her entire life on hold due to this situation. As a mother, it's heartbreaking to see your child in the condition. But to know that this is a fluke accident and that it most probably could have been prevented if more vigilance was taken over her throughout her 4 DAYS OF LABOUR, is worse. 

Melinda lives in a comfortable apartment for her and her son. This 2 bedroom on the third (very steep) floor. But with Laurlyn there now, under her mothers guardianship and the baby being there 75-80% of the week, this growing family needs our help. They first and foremost need is to relocate. With everything happening today, we understand that money is scarce during the pandemic. And we also understand that the hospital has VERY STRICT policies to follow.

But Melinda wasn't able to see her daughter that was in a coma for a while. Once she was let in, the staff was stern with her due to the new covid policies. She, being an outsider, was not aloud to be inside the hospital doors. And although she understood that, there was no empathy or sympathy for her and her situation considering this trauma took place inside hospital doors. This experience has left a young 27 year old single-mother scared, alone and traumatized by all that was done to her. Her two months at the rehabilitation center left her practically suicidal for the lack of personal visits she had and for the limited hours she was able to spend to bond with her new baby. Melinda fought with everything she could to ensure that her daughter and granddaughter were able to have the time together every single day, and every single day rain or shine Melinda was there with or without baby Charlie so Laurlyn could spend as much time with her as possible. 

Now that Laurlyn is home, and Melinda has put her career on hold potentially indefinitely, this family needs funds to sustain themselves for the next couple of months until they are able to see their next steps with Laurlyn's progress. They need to purchase special equipment for Laurlyn. They need to relocate homes so that they can be comfortable in their home. They need to be able to put food on the table and not have to worry about financial burdens of the situation. The more focus on Laurlyn's rehabilitation, the faster she can heal and we can see the long-term effects of her trauma. 

The funds will go to relocation costs and living expenses, special equipment for Laurlyn (such as an ADA approved designed crib so she can sit and still be able to be with her daughter), lawyers fees, medication, private specialists for her rehabilitation, a part-time or maybe a full-time nanny depending on if Melinda will have to return to work or not, psychotherapy, physiotherapy, private doctors and clinics. This list can go on and on but the point is that whatever it is that we can raise will go directly to the well being or Laurlyn's new life. A new life that no one had planned for and that no one had expected. Having a baby and raising a child is one thing. Going in to have a child and walking out 4 and a half months later, with no recollection of the situation, being traumatized and fearing that you are a burden to those around you, not being able to raise your child in the way and environment you had originally hoped and all the while being physically disabled when you were otherwise 100% healthy, is another situation all together. 

It takes a village to raise a child, in this case though it takes a community to rebuild a family and a home. 

Thank you for sharing and spreading the word. We wish everyone health and safety during these times. anything you can do to help is greatly appreciated. 

With Love, 

Amanda, Tania, Melinda, Matteo, Laurlyn & Charlie

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Laurlyn Ley 
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Saint Léonard, QC
Tania Liberalon 
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