Hello Friends, as you read this please hold your
best friend in your heart
What are best friends?
They are not ordinary friends – they love you at your best but even more at your worst. They put you first before themselves. They are the ones who say “okay honey maybe you should re-think this.” There is never judgement in their voice, just a gentle pointing you in a direction.
I have a such a friend who lives in a state just north of me. I will call my best friend Sunshine, as I so often have over the years. We often see each other, and begin each day with chatting and each evening on the phone recounting our days and laughing. Many of you may know who I am talking about.
About five weeks ago, I couldn’t reach her. She is a front-line worker during this pandemic, and the medical centers were short on staff, so I presumed at first that was why. But you know that knot you get in the pit of your stomach when you realize something is wrong? That was the feeling that built inside me.
When Sunshine remained out of touch the next day, I feared something was very wrong. At this point I was wanting to get in the car and make the four- hour drive, because she has never in all these years not called me back the same hour I called her.
I went to her Facebook page, saw we had a mutual friend, and contacted her. She made a few calls. This was how I learned that Sunshine had had a double heart attack and was in a Seattle hospital on a ventilator. I found out Sunshine was in critical condition, and all we could do was wait. Rather than run in circles with my worries, I thought I would continue to talk with Sunshine each day through Facebook. I just made myself believe somehow she would be able to read my words. I talked about my day like I always did, believing in my heart that when she woke up and was taken off the ventilator, she could read the letters and kinda get up to speed.
Four weeks went by. Some told me that it didn’t look good, Sunshine might not pull through and I should prepare myself. I prepared by imagining a girls trip when she woke up, talking of the fun times we’d have in the future. I couldn’t imagine not having my best friend by my side in life.
She pulled through. I have a special ring on my phone for Sunshine and knew it was her. Trying to grab it, I about knocked my husband to the ground, tripped over one pug and stepped on the other. “Sunshine,” I said. “Yes, honey it’s me,” she said. I just stood frozen, taking a minute for my brain to process it. It felt like the most beautiful voice I’ve ever heard.
Do you know what the first thing she said was? “Honey, I’m sorry I could not call you and I’m sorry you worried so long.” That is who she is.
Sunshine has a mountain to climb, and most likely will not be able to return to work. She is alone during this pandemic, trying to get stronger and heal, yet no one can be by her side. I know she has a lot of financial worries right now, with a mortgage and just day-to-day expenses. I can hear this in her voice, although she never plays the pity-me card. So what I want to do is give her a financial cushion, so that each day she can work at getting better. She has a long way to go, but she has the heart of a lion and a strong will.
I am asking my friends if you can find it in your hearts to help. As I said, some of you know who I’m talking about. Others may not, but when you make that donation to a complete stranger, know that you are doing an enormous act of kindness. Think what you would do to help someone you consider your best friend.
Often Sunshine would come to our home in Mexico to visit, and each and every night we would sit together and watch the sunset. So this sunset is for her. Thank you and I love you all so very much.
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