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I will start off by telling you a little bit about Kris and I! We have been together since 2011, and have been married since 2015. We live in Vacaville, Ca with our two dogs, Tyga & Tucker. I am twenty-four years old, and work full time in Davis as a property manager. Kris is twenty-seven years old and works in San Francisco as a painter at the Presidio. He is such a motivated, hard worker that goes the extra mile. Life with Kris has been nothing short of amazing. His personality and attitude towards life is truly one of a kind.
When Kris was fifteen years old, he had experienced cold sweats, itchy feet and migraines. His parents continued to take him to the doctors for over a year, yet they could not find anything wrong. One day, his parents had brought him to the hospital because he had a rash on his side that they had thought was poison oak. During that visit, they had found out it was a breakout of shingles. Soon after he left this visit from the doctors, he had developed a large mass in his neck and his parents ran him back inside. The doctor recognized this as an emergency and Kris was taken by ambulance immediately to San Francisco Hospital. They came to the conclusion that Kris had stage 4 Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.
Hodgkin’s lymphoma is a cancer of the lymphatic system, which is part of your immune system. Kris was told that he had roughly a 15% chance of beating this terrible disease. Yet, no matter what anyone said he was not discouraged. He knew in his heart that he was going to beat it! Over a two year period, he spent a lot of his time in the hospital. His hospital visits included nine rounds of chemotherapy, and two weeks of intense radiation, which all failed. As a final treatment option his doctors recommended high dosages of chemotherapy which would require a stem cell transplant to repair his immune system. His recovery started in a bubble room for a month, then continued at home for three months. Keep in mind, this all prevented him from continuing his education at his local high school. In fear that he would fall behind, his parents decided to enroll him in a home school program.
Before he started his Chemo, the doctors had sat him and his parents down and explained the process along with some of the short and long term side effects that would affect him. One of them was in regards to fertility. Chemotherapy (chemo) works by killing cells in the body that are dividing quickly. One of those targets is sperm cells, and so his doctor recommended for him to save some before he underwent treatment. After many months, countless hospital trips, and with the love and support of his family he was able to pull through and beat his battle with cancer! He is now ten years cancer free!
To this day his sperm count has never gone back to normal. He has been tested a handful of times and the doctors have all told us that there is a very high possibility that it may never go back to normal due to the amount of radiation he undertook during his treatment. Imagine at the age of fifteen, going to make a deposit to the sperm bank, prior to chemo, with your parents! This was his only hope of having a child, and we are so thankful that he had that opportunity years ago. We are thankful the doctors and his parents had planned for his future children.
Now that Kris and I are married, and ready to start a family of our own, we have been researching the options that are available to us. We have gone to Kaiser and spoke with a specialist who told us that with our situation the only option would be IVF . The doctors have tested Kris’ banked sperm and told us that out of the three vials available, we would only have one or two chances for it to work. In Vitro fertilization (IVF) is a complex series of procedures used to treat fertility and assist with the conception of a child. Unfortunately, our insurance does not cover IVF at all. Kaiser estimates that we will need between $18,000 - $20,000 to cover the procedure and all medications that go along with it.
After receiving this news, the specialist then wanted to run a few tests on me to make sure we wouldn’t have any other complications against us. That’s when we found out that I have PCOS. PCOS is not a life threatening disease, but it can affect fertility. When I found this out, I was felt very discouraged. Due to the PCOS, I was told that on top of the procedure and medications for IVF, I will also be required to take additional fertility drugs. The doctor assured us that they will do everything possible to help us along our journey. They calmed our nerves a little by letting us know their policy for Kaiser. Their policy guarantees that with the money we spend on IVF, it will give us three chances to conceive.
With all our family and friends, we have been trying to stay positive through this process which is really just the beginning. This personal journey we have decided to share with anyone reading is very difficult to do. We have tried to fight this privately, but have come to the realization that we are going to need some help. Infertility is draining, both financially and emotionally, which has brought us here.
We understand not everyone can donate with money, but we will take donations in the form of PRAYER and POSITIVE VIBES as well. :) We have decided to use GoFundMe as our platform for donations due to the ease and safety of the program, they do however charge a fee.
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Creation of life is nothing short of a miracle and we are ready for ours :) Once again from the bottom of our hearts, we thank you for reading this, donating, praying, and supporting us on our hopes of a perfect ending to our journey, and we hope that we can hold in our arms and hearts forever.
Kris & Kati McGlothern