Help us make our dream come true

In 2014 there was a woman who was scared of leaving her marriage that was filled with abuse. Scared because she believed that no one would ever want to be with her because of her struggles with infertility and because she was over weight. She believed this because this is what he told her.

In 2014 there was a grieving man, a man who had just lost not only his dad but his best friend. He believed he would always be alone and there would be no one in this world to fill his heart.

That woman and that man is me and my husband.

I've always lived in upstate NY and he was a Jersey boy but we did have one thing in common, our passion for the NY Jets. In 2015 my friend and I decided to go to a game. What we thought was just a fun girls night is a night that had changed my life forever.. We wandered through the parking lot checking out the tailgates other fans had going on and then at the same moment my eyes locked with this handsome man. We didn't talk much that night but caught up on social media afterwards. I realized shortly after we started spending time together that I had found my soulmate and he realized that his heart could be filled.

A year later we returned to the restaurant where we had our first date. We held hands across the table and talked about the amazing ride we had been on for the last year. We talked about the night we met, moving in together and how even a year later we still get butterflies when we kiss. I started to tear up because I never thought a love like this existed, it felt too good to be true. We finished dinner and before we left he reached into his pocket and got down on one knee and he asked me to spend the rest of my life with him. I was in disbelief and can't remember a happier moment. I was overwhelmed with joy and cried as I told him yes!!

There was someone out there who accepts me for who I am. Yes I may have infertility and yes I may be overweight but someone loves me. Not just someone, but the most perfect man I could've ever imagined. And I'm beyond excited to be the woman who could finally fill his heart.

There was one problem though, without an incredible amount of help we won’t be able to expand our family. In the past I have endured more rounds of iuis and ivf than anyone should ever have to as well as surgeries and several miscarriages..

Although we are a hardworking couple who can sustain ourselves, coming up with the funding necessary for the surrogacy process is unfathomable. After speaking with out of state agencies and realizing will cost is between $80,000 and $100,000 we became defeated.. Each day as we get older we feel like this life goal will never be achieved.

Now that surrogacy may finally become legal in New York State that is just one step closer to our goal..  We put off this GoFundMe because we know there are people in much more difficult situations than we are and we are not the type of people who would take something for nothing..  A child would be the greatest blessing we could ever receive and without some financial help this is really unreachable.. If you choose to donate to us we would be forever grateful, if you can’t then all prayers are appreciated as well..
  • Randy Reay  
    • $20 
    • 20 mos
  • Delmar Reid 
    • $20 
    • 22 mos
  • Kyle Blake 
    • $100 
    • 24 mos
  • Jessica Dealmedia 
    • $30 
    • 27 mos
  • Christine Ricketson 
    • $25 
    • 27 mos
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Debbie Grinwis 
Kingston, NY
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