We need your help. This is so very hard for us to ask for help, but we truly need it.
Our son Kayden is 10 years old. Almost 4 years ago he began being very, very hard to live with. He had an extremely short fuse and could not obey even the simplest routine or expectation. Something as simple as “Please go brush your teeth” would turn into an hour of yelling at us and throwing things and usually end in tears and threats. He was very defiant and angry and mean. It seemed as though he looked for ways to annoy his siblings and cause problems. This behavior of course led to lots of stress and discipline problems. We tried positive reinforcement and negative consequences. We tried sticker charts and money and extra privileges. But it seems every incentive program there is became something else to fight about. After some time of this behavior, my little 7-year-old boy started saying that he wanted to die. He would say he wished he wasn’t here, why did he have to be so bad, and how he wanted to run in front of a car and be done with it. This was heartbreaking to us. How could someone so young and innocent even know what that meant? We began seeing a behavioral therapist with him before he turned 8. This seemed to help in small doses and short term. After a few months it became too expensive so we had to stop.
I wish we could give you a glimpse into Kayden’s life. Sometimes I look at him and it’s like I can see a little into his future, and I’m just blown away at how good and wonderful he could be if he could just get past all this defiance and anger. About 6 months ago we had some tests done and received a diagnosis of ODD and ADHD. ODD is a behavior disorder usually diagnosed in childhood that is characterized by uncooperative, defiant, negativistic, irritable, and annoying behaviors toward parents, peers, teachers, and other authority figures.
We began seeing a therapist again. Once again I felt like it helped in small doses. But I felt like we were coming at the problem the wrong way, treating the symptoms but never able to fix it.
It really hasn’t gotten much easier. Every day is a battle to do homework, take a shower, keep his hands to himself, and brush his teeth. Little things have no consequence to him. He cannot see the big picture or connect the dots of his actions to his consequences, good or bad. As he grows older the issues are naturally becoming bigger. It’s like he can’t not touch or punch or yell or be in someone’s face over something small. We have set rules and boundaries in our home, but he just waits until we go to sleep and does whatever he wants. Takes phones, iPads, food, siblings’ toys. No amount of talking or discipline has made a difference.
After years of prayer and tears and so much stress on our family, we heard of a place called Brain Balance. We recently had a tour and did their assessment testing, and we feel this is our answer! Kayden’s left brain tested close to a sophomore level academically, but his right brain tested at a second-grade level in emotional comprehension . His brain is underdeveloped in areas that will not allow him to change without help. We can’t live like this anymore. He can’t live like this anymore. I dream of the day when his true potential will come out and he can be the happy, kind, fun kid I know he is
because he will have the skill set and the ability to do so.
We need your help and support. You can be our miracle. Thank you so very much. We appreciate anything and everything you can donate to our son.