Need Help for Mama

Almost three years ago, my wife Sheena, left her home in Pakistan to come to America to marry me.  During the time we've been married she has given her whole life to me.  She's given everything she has to love me, take care of me and be the best wife I could ever imagine.

Now, I need to do something really important for her, but it's something I can't afford to do, so I'm reaching out and asking you for help - something I would only do in a dire situation such as this.

In April 2016, after she had been here about a year and a half, her Papa unexpectedly had a stroke, which I believe was a minor stroke that could have easily been taken care of with modern medical care.  He was taken to the public government hospital in Lahore.  They kept him in the hospital for a few hours, gave him some medications and sent him home!  Yes!  They sent him home after just a few hours in the hospital - after suffering a stroke!

He seemed to be getting a little better over the next 24 hours, and then suddenly he had another stroke and was taken to the hospital again.  This time they kept him for 24 hours, but it was 12 hours before they treated him. After another 12 hours - he was dead.  Totally sudden and unexpected.

I still remember Sheena's screams of horror when her brother-in-law called to inform her of the the shocking news.  "My papa has died!!!  My papa has died!!"  She was absolutely totally devastated.  And being so far away from home and unable to go back during this time made it all just heart breaking and impossible to bear.  

For both of us, the saddest part was that neither of us had any idea that when she left Pakistan a year and a half earlier, that that would be the last time she would ever see her Papa.  He had seemed to be in perfect health up until the day he had the stroke.

Sheena talks to her family every day on Skype and over the last few weeks, she has told me that she's seen a real decline in her mom's health. Her mom has been suffering from some terribly painful conditions that the doctors at the public hospitals haven't been able to diagnose.  

Whenever they prescribe medicine to her, I ask them to send us a photo of the bottle so I can see what it is.  The bottles are written in English so it's easy to look up what medications they're giving her.  After one recent visit for chronic chest and abdomen pains, they gave her a "prescription" for something she thought was real medicine.  When she sent us the photo of the bottle, it was nothing more than multi-vitamins!  That told me they have absolutely no idea what they're doing. 

She could go to a private hospital which are much better, and they're not expensive by our standards, but they're far more expensive than anything Sheena and I can afford at this time.  

This has made Sheena extremely worried and sad.  She is so afraid that the same thing that happened to her Papa might now happen to her Mama.   And she's so afraid that her mom might pass away without her ever having a chance to see her again.  

So, I have a two-fold purpose in asking for your help.  It is first and foremost to help pay for Mama's medical care at a private hospital.  But equally important, it is also to pay for a trip for Sheena and Myles (our two-year-old son) to visit her mama soon.  

The private healthcare in Pakistan is modern and actually pretty decent, if you can afford to go to private doctors and hospitals.  The good news is, that private hospitals and doctors are far cheaper there than they are in America.   So, we've included an amount that we feel, at this time, is sufficient to get her mom the very best healthcare she can get there.

I have also included an amount sufficient to pay for travel expenses.  Visiting her mom in Pakistan, is rife with risks. So, we've decided it would be best for Sheena to meet her in Oman. Sheena's brother lives and works in Oman right now and her mom worked there for 20 years when Sheena was a little girl. So her mom will feel at home there and she'll get to see her son as well as Sheena and Myles - which if anything will very much lift her spirits.  

It is much safer for Sheena and Myles to travel to Oman than it is for them to travel to Pakistan.   There are still a couple of people in Pakistan who would like to see Sheena dead.  One is a woman who made two attempts on her life before she left.  And another is a relative. Because of that, I do not want her to get anywhere near Pakistan at this time.  

Our plan therefore, is for Sheena and Myles to fly to Oman for two weeks.  Then we'll fly her mom and sister to Oman from Pakistan.  Her sister will have to go with her mom as her mom will need her help during the trip.

Oman is one of the good countries in the region. They're very open to foreigners and very tolerant of Christians. They don't tolerate and they don't suffer from any kind of extremist Islamic terrorism.  So, it's the safest place where they all can meet.

The amount we need includes funds for Mama's healthcare, flights for four people and lodging for two weeks.  Any funds raised over our goal will be put to good use helping Sheena's mama with future healthcare needs and if there is more than needed for that, it will go to helping other Christian brothers and sisters in Sheena's family as well as her church family in Pakistan.  

Healthcare Expenses:
Mama's Healthcare:      $3,250

Sheena and Myles:         $2,400
Mama and Sister:            $1,200
Lodging for 14 nights:  $2,100

Our goal is to raise the funds by October 31, 2017, so they can leave for Oman sometime in November or December.  

Thank you so much for reading and we can't tell you how much we appreciate any help you can give.  It will be profoundly life changing - for a lot of people.
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Jonathan Cousar 
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