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 We are Eli (26) and Evren (27), two best friends living in the Netherlands. It's lovely to meet you, despite that it's under unfortunate circumstances.
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 We both currently live in abusive, restrictive, dangerous, and financially unstable households, and we are raising money together to help us move out and establish safe, independent homes.
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 Our friendship has become an incredibly important source of safety and support for both of us. We wanna see each other eating, and that's why we're doing this together. We are hoping that, with some help from others, we can finally leave the environments we’ve spent so long surviving in.
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 Hi! I’m Evren, a 27-year-old Dutch-Turkish, fat, mentally ill and most likely disabled/neurodivergent lesbian. I live with my abusive mother, while my abusive father lives nearby. Both of my parents are mentally unstable and have serious problems with regulating their emotions. This also caused me to be extremely parentified from a young age.
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 My father has physically and psychologically abused me throughout my life. Because of my sexuality, I have experienced threats to kill me, because I tainted the family name, and he has threatened to force me to take my own life. I keep him at arm’s length now, but cutting him off completely is difficult while we still live in the same town. The risk of honor-based violence still looms over me.
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 My mother has also been abusive (mostly psychologically and financially) throughout my life. She also was complicit in my CSA by my ex-stepfather. Although my mother superficially accepts my identity, she frequently ridicules and insults me, leans on me emotionally and financially, splits on me, and parentifies me. She is financially exploitative towards me, and I currently have no ability to refuse when she asks for money. She also has my bank card in her possession, and is entirely reliant on me, her child, to get by instead of working, while she is fit to do so.
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 I am currently on sickness benefit after losing my job because my mental health deteriorated severely, due to my past traumas and current home situation. I have grown up in extreme poverty, and I'm trying to break that cycle; I work when I can, but the mental health issues stemming from my traumas have made me a hollowed out version of myself that is busy surviving the day, over and over again, and can't do much else. I have experienced psychosis and a very severe depressive episode after the loss of my job, and I am currently receiving psychiatric care while waiting for therapy.
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 Despite being unable to work, I contribute a substantial amount of my income to my household. I have repeatedly tried to save enough to move out, but my savings are continually used for household expenses and my family’s needs. I have even ended up in debt that way. I am left with very little for my own necessities, let alone enough to save for independent housing.
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 I have lived with severe trauma, unsafety and instability for most of my life. As mentioned before, I am on a waiting list for therapy to process this. I want to recover, I want to heal, and I want to live, but trying to recover while remaining in the environment that is contributing to my deterioration has become an impossible cycle, which makes me quite suicidal. Everything I learn in therapy is undone by my home situation. I want the chance to build a life that isn’t entirely organized around surviving my home environment.
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 Hi! I'm Eli, a 26-year-old indigenous Moroccan (Amazigh) gay trans man. I live with my extremely religious, conservative mother, whom cannot find out about my identity for my own safety—and neither can my family, and therefore most of my town. I can't be who I truly am here, and I constantly have to look over my shoulder, be misgendered and deadnamed, and walk on eggshells. It's taken an immense toll on my mental and physical health.
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 My mother and father (divorced) have been physically and psychologically abusive towards me throughout my life. I didn't speak to my father since teenhood, and he passed a few years ago. As an only child to first-generation immigrants who never mastered Dutch, I have suffered a lot of parentification and my mother has relied on me more than she should have financially. I also was heavily bullied throughout my childhood and teenage years, so I was not able to seek solace/refuge in the weekdays spent at school either. I still haven't had the room, safety or peace to process all of this and go to therapy for it. I'm constantly in fight-or-flight mode.
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 Being raised in a poor, muslim, and North-African household has been incredibly hard for me as an AFAB gay trans man, who is also alternative, mentally ill, and most likely neurodivergent. I am expected to be a good muslim "girl" and do the cooking, cleaning, be subservient to their demands, their religion, and values. If I fail to adhere to these rules and demands, I am punished through gossiping, belittlement, insults, and being told I shouldn't be here and there is no use in me being here.
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