Please help save my husband & my family!!

My name is Melissa, my husband is James and I have an 8 year old son and a 7 year old daughter.  We live in Vegas and are having a really hard time and have been for the past 2 years. I am an authorization specialist in the medical field and have been for the last 14 years. At the beginning of 2019 my husband had a procedure done, a hot enema. It was done in a semi professional manner but was unfortunately too hot and it caused ever lasting damage to his intestines. Since then he has been almost completely incapacitated.  It caused an array of symptoms that he is still dealing with to this day. The symptoms range from tachycardia, fainting spells, dizziness, extreme swelling and burning in lower intestines, hot flashes, nausea, vomiting, shivering spells and soo much more. He has to eat a very very bland diet, a variety of foods or drinks can irritate his insides causing those symptoms, he can not take any oral medications because they can cause those symptoms. He is constantly backed up. His stomach is always sore, it radiates to his back and hips. He is continuisly in pain. He can not take hot showers, baths, can hardly stand for even short periods of time. He is basically bed ridden, he cant sleep because he is constantly woken up by pain or any one of those symptoms, he can not do any activities, he cant play with his children he is in a horrible state. He has lost over 50 pounds in the last 6 months. We have been to several doctors over the past 2 years. All test results are negative, scans, blood work, cardioligy, GI no one can find a proper diagnosis for his condition. They all just think he is crazy. It has turned our world completely upside down. We owned a house for 10 years and in June 2019 I unfortunately had to quit my job to be home to take care of him and my children. At this point he couldnt be left alone. We had to sell our house to avoid foreclosure and only made enough money from the sale to keep us afloat rent and bills wise for 1 year. We had hoped that by the end of the year he would have been helped and healed and I would have gone back to work but that has not been the case. Doctors are still nowhere in figuring out what is wrong with him, its always just defensive arguing with him telling him that the reason for his symptoms is not possible and when we question that they say he is then a 1 in a million case, that is exactly what we are saying we are that 1!! But that doesnt matter, we are so frustrated and sadened by this situation, it has completely turned our life, our family upside down. We are at the point that we want to get exploratory surgery to examine his intestines and possibly remove the damaged portions, but the doctors will not agree to this without a negative test somewhere. We now want to pay out of pocket to have this done if possible, he just wants more then anything in this world to live and be a dad again to his children. He is only 35 years old, he still has alot of life to live. This situation is absolutely devastating and its killing us, now we are in a position that our lease is up at the end of December and we have no money left, no where to go, no family or friends to help us. We would never ever ask for help but we are now in a desperate situation and have no where else to turn. Any help even the smallest amount can help us. I any help is sooooo greatly appreciated.  Thank you.

Something from his words "I get to watch my beautiful kids who might end up without their father dance play and sing without me. I can't go out and run with them I can't go out and play with them. I know exactly what's wrong with me but months later and no one believes me, I'm still stuck on the couch and stuck in bed can't even do anything. I bet you there's nobody else on earth that could have done this I guarantee you everybody would have killed themselves by now. I am suffering like no one believes. No doctor will admit to my issue. So basically I just have to wait for this shit to go bad and end up in the emergency room and hope and pray that they not only take care of me but find and remove the problem. Basically i am just waiting to die. I have spoken to attorneys and they wont take the case. Before I had kids I wasn't scared about nothing. I got an associates in Computer Networking and now my skills are just going to waste. I want for nothing more to be healthy again, play with my kids, get back in the workforce and take care of my family like I was supposed to then boom I get sick and my life is completely destroyed. Before this happened i had a $40,000 a year job, was training in Jiu Jitsu. I just can not believe that this has happened to me, it is unbelievable how it has destroyed me. When I first got sick it was so devastating to me and then I realized it wasn't going away and then I started to think more about my family and now that is all I think about. So I have been reading watching movies anything to get my mind off being sick, but nothing really helps, its always on my mind. I have no life right now at all. I hope I'm able to pull this out for them. They are my everything and it is killing me to see what this is doing to my wonderful Bunny and my beautiful children. I love them so much. I don't care what happens as long as I survive I can suffer and suffer and suffer until the last minute as long as I survive this whatever it is. I keep wishing an opportunity would present itself for me do die a hero instead of stuck in bed."

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Melissa Elliott 
Organizer
Las Vegas, NV
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