My name is Anj, and I am a singer/songwriter/pianist based out of Atlantic City, NJ. Thank you so much for stopping by to to learn more about my miracle-of-a-boyfriend, Patrick. Two years ago, on November 8th, 2013, he was struck by a vehicle while walking home at night.He was diagnosed with a severe traumatic brain injury. He also had a subdural acute hematoma (brain bleed), a diffuse axonal injury (shearing of the brain stem), multiple contusions to the brain, a depressed basilar skull fracture, a shattered leg, a broken arm, and a post-traumatic stroke. He was in a coma for 10 days, and the doctor's told us that the prognosis was "extremely grim." They gave him a 1% chance of ever regaining full consciousness.
When he finally woke up, Patrick was greatly altered. The stroke had left him paralzyed on his left side. He could not speak, show facial expressions, control his bowels, follow a command, breathe on his own or feed himself. Every single basic activity that you and I take for granted, he has had to relearn this past year. Amazingly, he continues to improve and fight his way back to regain all that he has lost.
I met Patrick when I was 15 years old, in the band program at our local Catholic high school in NJ. Though we never had a conventional relationship, Patrick sparked something so catalytic in me that I began writing music. After college we lost touch, but never forget each other. And at 30 years old, our paths collided at the last gig of my first bi-coastal tour. We fell in love instantly and began dating again. We teamed up to produce my 3rd record, "The Giant Unquiet".
On the night of Patrick's accident, I was at a music convention in L.A, about to launch a national tour in support of my new record. I had this unshakable feeling that Patrick was hurt, which intensified as the hours passed, until I felt physically ill. Finally, when I hadn't heard from him, I called a family member who told me about the accident, and that patrick was "brain dead".
I flew on a red-eye flight to Florida, and arrived at his side just in time to hear the words "minimal brain activity". The swelling was so bad that the doctors had to remove a piece of Patrick's skull to let the brain swell out. I cancelled my tour plans, sold my RV, and have been with Patrick ever since his accident. It has not been any easy road, but I couldn't have made any other choice. Love made the decision for me.
Patrick has defied every prognosis from every doctor along the way, and is still continuing to shock them with his strength, fortitude, and determination. However, he has a long way to go on the road to recovery. He still suffers from left-sided weakness, drop foot, and lacks any fine motor function in his hand. He is unable walk unassited. He has swallowing/speaking troubles, and remains cognitively impaired. One of the greatest losses of the accident, is that Patrick can no longer play drums or effectivley write music.
I'm asking YOU to help me change that reality :)
There are many therapies out there that would greatly assist him in his recovery, but we do not have the funds nor means to obtain them. Many of these therapies are extremely expensive! We are launching this GoFundMe campaign to try and raise the money necessary to get Patrick access to all the therapy he requires, so that he can make the best recovery possible, and hopefully be restored to physical, emotional and mental health. We hope that people will feel moved to give, and assist in #healingpatrick, so that he and I can play the song of our hearts with our hands together once again. You can follow our journey at www.16PetalsofBlueLight.com.