On November 19th, 2020, my family's lives changed forever. My oldest brother Toby was killed in a car accident in Arizona.
For those of you that don't know, Arizona was Toby's second home, he spent his winters there because the Minnesota winters were brutal on his health.
Quite a few years ago Toby got rear-ended on the freeway, then another accident on a job site when the construction crew removed the road the trucks were using to haul from the job site, causing a LOT of neck issues.
Toby never complained, to much, about his pain, he always had a smile on his face, a wise cracking comment, or anything he needed to do to make people laugh, but when he got a headache, we knew, he stayed with his family as long as he could until the pain was so bad he had to lay down.
Toby's health prevented him from working, in a building, but I feel his job was to touch as many people's lives that he could and he definitely did that (I swear he was sent here by God to do something special, which he did). Anyone that ever came in contact with him felt the love, immediately, whether it was a goofy smile, a big hug, a wise cracking joke, anything, you immediately felt comfort being around him.
Toby was a loving son, brother, father, husband, grandpa, uncle, friend & so much more!!
I set up this GoFundMe to help my sister in law (Toby's amazing wife), Mary with funeral expenses. Having the accident happen in Arizona things just got so much more expensive. This unexpected death has also left her with a lot of extra expenses. People, including myself, ask Mary, what can we do for you? I'm sure, in her heart, she just wishes someone could bring her soulmate back to her, unfortunately none of us can (oh how I wish I could). So I would like to do something for her, if you can, please donate to this fundraiser to help her bring her soulmate home & help her with any additional, unexpected, expenses that come up for her.
I say this a lot, as our family has gone through a lot of unexpected deaths, tell your loved ones you love them, every day, never let a day go when you don't as you never know when tomorrow is promised.
Sending you all love, hugs & thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Love Toby's baby sister,
- Randy Baum
- Deborah Zachman
- Kurt Iten
Organizer and beneficiary
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