Visitation will be Thursday, January 11, 2018, at Gospel Assembly Church, 12055 Pippin Road, Cincinnati, Ohio 45231.
The funeral service will also be at Gospel Assembly Church on Friday, January 12, 2018, with the interment immediately following at Crown Hill Memorial Cemetery at 11825 Pippin Road, Cincinnati, Ohio 45231.
We are meeting with the funeral home tomorrow (Monday, December 8th) to finalize times and will update this page and let people know more details after that, but the places for services are accurate.
On December 18th, Mark had an esophageal tear. This was surgically repaired on the 19th. This was extremely critical because it allowed a large amount of bacteria and infection into his chest cavity and seeped into other areas of his body as well, causing sepsis and infection to ravage his already frail body but he fought on as he has done so many times in the past. The doctors actually said he was very strong and a fighter for his age and condition. On Christmas Eve he had perked up and was looking good. His spirits were high once again. Unbeknownst to all, the surgical repair had torn worse because of the damage the first one had caused to the tissue. This damage continued to ravage his body for another week and was not discovered until his condition went critical again and he was put back on a respirator Christmas Day. And they did another surgery on his esophagus and inserted a stent because there was not enough tissue to hold it together. The constant in and out of the respirator caused a case of pneumonia and fluid to build up causing his only lung to collapse.
The doctors told Mom they were putting in a feeding tube to help him get more nutrition to fight the infection because he needed it to help as he still had the vent. The decision was made to take him off the vent. After he woke up he had moments of clarity that all the close family and friends enjoyed - all that came to see him. Sometimes he was out of it. But he continued to struggle on. They told us he would need a tracheotomy in his neck to live the rest of his life and the feeding tube as well. Our father made the decision to not have a hole in his neck and to place everything in God’s hands as he has done all his life. A TRUE Testament to our Dad’s faith, strength and belief, the way he has always lived. He was the most kindhearted man we have ever known.
Despite the depression of not being able to spend time with his family, church and friends, which meant the world to him, he tried and maintained his composure of keeping his spirits high for all of us even though he was depressed and in much pain and suffering.
Me and my brother, Mark Hess, and sister, Rachel Hess, are asking for help for our mom, Sue Hess. They didn’t have much insurance and the expense of a funeral so suddenly is enormous. Mom is going to lose half of their Social Security income. Dad has been in the hospital since December 19th and had 3 major surgeries and been in the intensive care unit of the Cardiovascular Unit since then and these bills will be coming shortly as well. Also, last year at this time Mark was in the hospital for 19 days after a hernia surgery that went wrong and resulted in 3 surgeries within a 48-hour period and led him to a nursing home rehabilitation stay following the 19-day hospital stay (something like 45 days away from home total and he missed Christmas last year as well). Well, my Mom is still paying for those bills as you can well imagine. And in January of 2014 she lost her own mother (Alvona Abbott) who a lot of you know and is still burdened with paying off her funeral. My mother is overcome with grief and has too much on her plate financially and this is why we are asking for just whatever help, even the smallest bit, you may be able to give.
We all loved and cared deeply for him please help us lay him to rest in the most fitting way possible for the man you remember. We want to be able to get him a headstone, which Mom was never able to afford for Grammy or Mimmie (Mary Abbott and Alvona Abbott) her mother and grandmother). Thank you all from the bottom of our hearts and souls for we will never be the same without this great man in our lives.
Mark had the kindest spirit of any human being you would ever meet. He always had a smile ready for you and it was the biggest smile that was genuine and would carry up to the twinkle in his eyes. He had a witty sense of humor and even up until he couldn’t communicate, he kept the nurses on their toes with his witty comebacks and stories. Mark was the most compassionate, caring man. He would help anyone in need and was the type of person who would give you the shirt off of his own back. As far as I know he had no enemies in his lifetime. He’d always see the best in everyone and be willing to give them the benefit of the doubt and a second chance no matter what. He was as humble as they come. And he maintained these characteristics throughout all this pain and suffering that he has endured through many, many years. Mark has had a long, long battle with pain. Those that know him, know that he’s endured endless surgeries (lung, heart, brain, numerous knee replacements on both legs, hips, shoulders, broken wrist, terrible rheumatoid arthritis, gout in both legs, unbearable restless leg syndrome) – he was basically living in the body of a 90-95 year old. But he hid it from most people and he suffered silently because he was that humble. But he reached his limit of suffering. None of us could have made it that far, and I’d bet all my worldly goods and life on that.
We thank you so much for your support if you are able to help our Mom with the burden of the expense of burying her husband (our father). We are asking for donations in lieu of flowers. If you would like to donate, please click the donate button at the top of page and donate what you can. If not, you can still leave messages and comments below for Mom or just feel free to leave your comments and you own memories of Mark below, how you know him and how he has affected your life.
We will continue to post updates to this GoFundMe page. If there are any changes to the funeral arrangements or anything that will be posted here as well.
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