Surgery to End Chronic Pain

My name is Victoria, and I have finally figured out how I want to dedicate my life to nursing and medicine. I love to run, hike, swim, dance, and volunteer. I learned all of this through my parents, who I admire and respect so much. They have given me everything, and I would like to give back to them what I can.

In August of 2013, I fell from a ladder at work and broke my back. I entered the worker's compensation system, believing and trusting that I would be well taken care of. In the aftermath of that accident, I have had constant sciatic nerve pain that my worker's compensation doctor could not find any answers for. My doctor used all of the conventional tests and tried to have treatments paid for by worker's compensation, but they began to refuse treatment only months after my injury. Last summer, my doctor told me what no one wants to hear; I would have to live with a limp and chronic pain for the rest of my life. Through all of this, my parents helped me, dressed me, held me and coached me.

To anyone who has had severe sciatic nerve pain, I can completely empathize with you. Chronic pain is exhausting, and creates a maelstrom of terrible emotions. For those of you who know me well, you have seen how an accident that leads to chronic pain steals the best in me; despite this and my life sentence, I refused to accept that as my life story. My parents never gave up on me.

Because I was no longer receiving the medical care I needed, I was referred to some of the best doctors in LA to help me find the root of my problem. Good news.... they did!!! They told me they could treat me and relieve this pain, a relief that brought on sobs of joy.

Unfortunately, these doctors are very expensive and do not accept insurance. Despite this, my parents have paid thousands of dollars (more than I even know) to find that this surgery could give me my life back, and allow me to pursue a life helping others. Throughout this experience, they offered their retirement money without hesitation to help me have the care I need.

They have handled this with grace and altruism that makes me feel like the luckiest girl in the world. What hurts the most is knowing how badly they want to retire, and that my dad only recently got a new job after being laid off for a year. They have no idea that I'm doing this, but I really want to give back to two people who fight for me and support me unconditionally. They work so hard to help me get through each day and sacrifice endlessly.

I have learned through this experience that it's ok to ask for help when you need it, and that your web of friends will catch you when you fall. My family has supported me unconditionally, and my sincere hope is to aleviate their stress. I don't seek pity, but really a way to give back to my parents for fighting on my behalf so I can get well. If you've read this far, thank you. I know medical bills are enormous, but every cent counts. Times are tough right now, I know, and I will keep any and all of you in my heart for the rest of my life. Thank you so much for your support.


With love and hope,



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Victoria Lapman 
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