Recovering from Death of My Father

Hello everyone! I'm Em, who most of you know from twitter (@em_being) or my podcasts on Abnormal Mapping. In the last few months, my father has begun to lose his fight against prostate cancer as it goes into his brain and lungs. He's in home hospice care and it's been very difficult, and the nurses say he only has probably a week to go. He's 84, and on a lot of pain medication, so he's not suffering at the end of a long life, but it's put my family in a really terrible spot.

Thankfully his medical bills were covered from his years in the Air Force and Medicare, but he has for many years been the primary person paying for rent for myself and my younger brother, who has served as his caretaker as he's slowly needed more care in the past decade. I'd provide a picture of him, but honestly he's not the man I grew up with and I don't feel comfortable doing so now that he's in a place where he can't consent. But with him going, it falls to me to provide for this apartment and the care of my family. This is something I am going to do my best to do, but I don't know if I'll actually end up making ends meet.

On top of this, in November I lost my car. I've asked for so much help to get a replacement car so far, and people have been very generous with their money and time. I'm so sorry I'm going to have to ask for people to be more generous still. I will, for now, use this money to help cusion the sudden loss of him as the one who pays for rent and utilities, and keep up paying on the car my brother used to take care of him and my father, which will now be our primary vehicle as we carpool everyone around and my brother looks for work (which will probably be very hard given his lack of job history). 

My partner, Destiny (@fridgebuzznow), is coming to live with us, and between the two of us we'll hopefully be able to cover it all, but things are going to be very hard. It'll be three people trying to live on two not-great incomes with one car, which is why I'm asking for people's generocity and attention in this time. 

Thank you everyone for your support so far. I'm sorry I've been brought to begging for help for the past two months, and I'm sorry I'll undoubtedly have to spend the next while hustling for this while handling everything else to do with this transition. Please offer what you can, and share if you're able, RTs and facebook and everything else are greatly appreciated in this time. That's all I've got for now. Thanks.

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Em Marko 
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La Vista, NE
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