Hey there friends! Thank you SO SO MUCH for visiting my fundraising page! Most of you probably know me, but in case you don’t, I’m Emmett. I’m also a trans man. Ever since I realized my trans identity and came out, I’ve been working towards aligning my body and mind, working to finally feel and be seen as myself. The next step in this journey towards peace with myself is top surgery, but in order to get top surgery I'm going to need some help from you guys (side note, the last paragraph touches more down to earth again, while the in-between stuff is more explanation of the surgery and my situation).
What Top Surgery is: Essentially, top surgery is like a double incision mastectomy; a removal of the breasts and sculpting my chest into a more masculine shape (more info here
). Not only will this allow me to feel like myself and to be able to experience joy and pride in my body, but it will make me feel safer in public, not to mention the gender euphoria that comes with being read as male.
Why I need this surgery: Right now, I survive my dysphoria (dysphoria is the distress transgender people feel because of the misalignment between their true gender and assigned gender) by wearing chest binders. However, binding is painful, restricts breathing, and can even cause permanent damage over time. And even with binding, my chest is not flat, and my dysphoria causes me acute daily psychological suffering. Not to mention worries such as "Is my binder sticking out of my shirt? Is my binder positioned right so my chest doesn't look too big? Can they tell?" I want to live my life without these constant worries. These worries prevent me living comfortably in my body, and living publicly without fear. And so, the next step for me is top surgery.
My situation: Now, here’s the thing. I’m extremely lucky to have a family where I am accepted and respected for the trans man that I am. Unfortunately, my parents are still resistant to my physical transition. My mother says she is too concerned that I am going through a phase and/or am too young to permanently alter my body. She worries that I will return in 10 years, angry at her and my father for allowing their child to do something so drastic while he was too young to know any better. I know that may sound transphobic to outside ears, but her concerns truly do come from a place of love and concern for my overall wellbeing. At the end of the day, they respect me as their son even if they don’t totally understand my identity. But for right now their attitude means that to get top surgery I have to do it alone (and for my mental health, I need it urgently). Top surgery is also incredibly expensive, and therein lies a major issue. I’m a junior in high school, and despite spending all last year working and saving, but I’m still falling painfully short.
The surgeon: Finding a good, experienced, qualified top surgeon is really difficult, and what with my medical history it’s even harder. I had a bone marrow transplant as a child, and I need doctors that can understand that because of the transplant I have special needs for medical procedures. I need people who can understand and account for the irregularities in my body. I finally found a doctor I researched and feel safe placing my safety and future in the hands of, but he requires travel.
--Double Incision Top Surgery: $7,000
--Anesthesia & hospital fee: $2,275
--Pathology tissue exam: $300
--Medication costs: undetermined
--Possible Hospital Facilities Fee - $200-$300 for every 30 minutes beyond the scheduled 120 minute operating room time
--Travel: around $350
--Hotel (I have to stay in town for over a week for post op proceedings and such) : approx. $1,000
Not to mention expenses such as renting a car, food, after care prescriptions, scar treatment, compression binder, etc.
This all adds up to an assorted $11,000. Daunting, I know.
Unfortunately, insurance won’t cover my medical costs for this procedure. Very few experienced surgeons performing top surgery have in-network relationships with insurance companies, and my out of network deductible is high enough that it won’t cover any of my costs, leaving me stranded without aid from insurance.
- What happens to the funds if you don’t reach your goal?
If I don’t reach my full goal, the funds you donate will be applied directly to my surgery costs. Thank you so much for donating!
- What happens to the funds if you exceed your goal?
If by some incredible miracle I manage to raise more than the cost of surgery, I will be donating the remainder of the money to other top surgery fundraisers!
So, I need to reach out. I’m humbling myself and asking my community for help. I’m asking you all to help me, because I desperately need this and I can’t do it alone. Literally a single dollar helps change my entire life. The depth and extent of my gratitude to you all is practically inexpressible, I simply don’t know how to convey how much this means to me and the pure love I have towards any of you who are able and willing to help me. Suffice to say, I’m getting emotional just writing this.
I understand if you aren’t able to help me, and I thank all of you simply for reading this.
Thank you all so much for your support, love