<div>Hello, my name is Tobias. I am a disabled/neurodivergent and nonbinary writer. I've spent my whole life being the helper, the person who has tried to be everything for everyone, in both my personal and work life, but I can't be that person anymore. 

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<div>I am desperately trying to escape my current living situation.  I know that everyone is inundated with gofundme's these days, but where I live now is not simply unpleasant/abusive, my family is actively being ableist in ways that are harming my mental and physical health. 

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<div>Even growing up, I was snapped at and dismissed when I had frequent dizzy spells, and it has only gotten worse as I've grown older and picked up chronic nausea and respiratory issues and diabetes along the way. 

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<div>Several years ago, my dizzy spells got bad enough that a very generous friend gave me a wheelchair and walker and shower chair. Within two weeks, all three of them were shoved up into the attic without consulting me.  I was crushed at how little my family seemed to even simply believe that what I was experiencing was real or worth the effort. But even at that point, I didn't realize how much further downhill it could go. 

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<div>This past October I was hospitalized and put in the ICU for ketoacidosis, with a further two hospital visits in short order afterwards for respiratory issues. Before October I was able to walk completely unassisted, and now I require a cane to get around, and a rollator walker with a seat for longer distances. 

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<div>My home is a split level, and I kept the rollator walker upstairs for when I needed a place to rest when cooking or walking down the hall. Beginning immediately, it was constantly pushed out of my reach or used to stack coats and belongings on, requiring that I clear it off for my use every time, which was very physically draining. 

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<div>When the holidays arrived, I was informed that my walker <em>must</em> go downstairs to my room, where I didn't need it, in order to free up space. When I worked up to telling my mom that this upset me, she told me that I was a very angry person and should tell my therapist about this in order to get help. 

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<div>Even for everyday things like asking for help fetching things from the floor because it makes me very lightheaded and throws off my balance, at best I get resentment and impatience when they do help.

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<div>These are just a few examples. 

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<div>When I was still physically capable of working, I worked 75+ hour weeks as a caretaker at mental health group homes to try to escape. My health worsened until my body failed me and I couldn't work at all anymore, and those attempts all failed. 

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<div>I have come to dread leaving my room and speaking with almost everyone in my family. It is reaching the point where I am beginning to give up hope of ever genuinely feeling safe and comfortable in my own home. 

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<div>My fiancé lives seven hours away from me in Virginia, and the possibility of at least temporarily living in a guest room at their sister's home has been gaining traction. I do not have social security income or a job of any sort, and moving costs are a brick wall currently blocking the way. 

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<div>This is a ray of hope that you can directly help with. If you can donate even the smallest amount I will be deeply grateful, along with sharing it. 

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