Hi, my name is Donna and I'm trying to raise funds for my autistic nephew and 2 nieces who have just tragically and suddenly lost both their mum and dad (stepdad to the girls) within 1 month of each other
The kids lost their dad Gary on the 12th April, after he'd been round for tea, said the usual goodbyes for the day, went home and died in his sleep due to a sudden cardiac arrest. He was found the next day by his step daughter and brother in law after not up showing for work. No previous health concerns or any sign that he was unwell.
They were, and still are, all devastated, including his long term partner Jill. They'd only lost the family dog a month before, who was 11 too.
Jill was finding it really difficult to cope and come to terms with it all, although she was fighting on for the kids, like she always did. But then on Sunday 1st of May, Jill showed signs of having a stroke whilst at home with the kids, so they rang an ambulance. She was took to hospital where they found she'd had a massive heart attack and had to be rushed for surgery to put a stent in, which saved her life. On the Monday, they discovered she'd also had a catastrophic stroke and had swelling on her brain, she then underwent another major operation to release pressure from the skull, it was in itself a success as she survived, but she was left with too much damage to the brain to recover. Unfortunately she never regained consciousness and sadly died on Thursday 12th May. There was no warning regarding Jill either, we're all in such shock, non of this seems real. I can't even begin to explain how this is affecting the kids.
Jill and Gary absolutely adored their kids, and Jill did everything for them. Alfie is only 10 and has autism, he needs care for the rest of his life. His nana and sister are currently caring for him, he hasn't come to terms about his dad yet, so we really don't know how he's going to process all of this about his mam.
I'm fundraising for him, and the girls, but mainly Alfie, to get him some money put aside for his care now and when he gets older. Also, we've been looking into guardianship for his nana and sister and it can take up to a year to achieve this and costs minimum£1,000 solicitor fees, which is an absolute nightmare on top of everything else. Although we're all trying to pull together, everything is really tough.
Whatever is raised will go towards creating a sensory room/ bedroom at his nanas, funeral costs, trips out with his sisters (he loves the cinema!) with anything else going towards his care for the rest of his life, so he, his nana and sisters, dont have to face that burden too.
Anything donated is really appreciated, even if its just £1, anything will help them right now.