Debbie's battle with Hepatocellular Carcinoma

My mother has terminal Hepatocellular Carcinoma. This fundraiser is to help her through her last few months but mostly for the services that will need to be planned soon.  This is a hard pill to swallow for any child that loves their mother. We just received a second opinion which verified the first, my mother, Deborah Crook has 3 to 4 months to live. It is stage 4 Hepatocellular Carcinoma with metastasis in the Lungs. We were told basically the entire liver is cancer and she also has 3 masses on her lungs as well. This is all so sudden and something we were neither emotionally nor financially prepared for. She is without Life Insurance and just moved back to Illinois from North Carolina in order to be buried next to her husband. We as a family are struggling due to the covid-19 pandemic as well as having 2 autistic sons, one of which is high risk for covid due to epilepsy and respiratory problems. We are trying to do all we can but we know that we can't get her next to her husband without the help of others.

Let me start at the beginning:
My mother was visiting my sisters a few months ago in Ohio and began having problems with swelling in her abdomen. She was drained via syringe multiple times which provided temporary relief of her discomfort. The physicians originally diagnosed her with liver failure. She left Ohio with no answers only more uncertainty and made her way back to North Carolina. After some time being back and being drained regularly she was given a triple contrast C.T. scan which revealed the masses on her liver I was called by the Dr. and told that she only had months to live due to the advance of the cancer. Knowing I couldn't leave her there in North Carolina when she needs to be back in Illinois to be beside her husband, I drove down to North Carolina, packed her up and brought her to Illinois. This was an exhausting trip for her, she was leaking fluid, her legs were swollen as well as her abdomen so I dropped her off at Northwestern Memorial Hospital where she received her second opinion via an MRI with contrast which revealed the secondary cancer in her lungs as well. They say that treatments are very dangerous for her due to the level of the liver damage and cancer as well as a clotting problem due to low platelets.  With all of this considered the Oncologist said of the 1 or 2 treatments possibly available to her (Nexavar or Immunotherapy) which they are still unsure she could tolerate would only "possibly" extend her life a month or two.  I am heartbroken, 3 to 4 months, that's not a long time to say goodbye. 3 to 4 months is not a long time to financially save and get your mother next to her husband to rest in peace. 3 to 4 months is not a long time for her to have her last few memories with her special needs grandsons that have no idea what is going on.

This was out of nowhere. I wish we were in a financial situation to handle such a tragedy and unexpected expenses, but 2020 has been a nightmare. I need help even the smallest of donations with take a huge burden and huge amounts of stress off of my mother in her last months. A small gesture of many can make the what seems impossible for us in these difficult times, possible. Thankfully she has a grave plot next to her husband, but with all of the opening/closing , handling of the body, casket/vault we were quoted over $9,000.  Anything even $1 that can be spared will be appreciated more than you know.  I am just trying to enjoy my mother in her last few months and the financial stress is always in the back of my mind.  Thank you to everyone in advance and God bless all of you.

Donations

  • Amy Widner 
    • $100 
    • 5 d
  • Anonymous 
    • $5 
    • 6 d

Organizer

Amanda Hayes 
Organizer
New Lenox, IL
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