Daddy Loves You

Story:

As the author of "Daddy Loves You," I understood the pain and challenges faced by fathers separated from their children. My journey began, intertwining my personal experiences as a father with my role as the founder and director of Foundation 4 Life, a Community Interest Company.

For 15 years, I dedicated my life to bridging the gaps between social services, probation, courts, schools, and families in need. Foundation 4 Life became the missing link, providing crucial support to dysfunctional families, and offering a lifeline to those who had lost their way.

I embarked on writing "Daddy Loves You," as a key to healing fractured relationships and addressing the adverse effects of absent fathers. The books are a vessel, a memento, a keepsakes carrying a message of love, hope, and redemption. Through heartfelt poems, I sought to mend broken bonds and guide fathers on a journey of self-discovery and growth. My own experiences as a father and my deep-rooted commitment to my children’s well-being became the driving force behind his book. With each carefully crafted poem, I sought to reconnect fathers with their children, mend broken relationships, and instill a sense of love and belonging. The ethos is to challenge hyper-masculinity and to redirect frustrations born of mismanaged, sometimes destructive, or at the least, dysfunctional relationships, culminating in inaccessibility to their children leading to an array of emotional difficulties and psychogenic pain.

I believe that every child deserves to grow up in a loving and supportive environment. It is well documented and understood that absent fathers contributed to the adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) that haunt many individuals in today’s society. With a burning desire to address this issue, I set out to create a much-needed tool that could heal wounds, bridge gaps, and reconnect families.

I understood the destructive nature of dysfunctional relationships and the emotional difficulties faced by children caught in their crossfire. My vision goes beyond just a book; it encompasses a societal shift in redefining fatherhood and challenging the toxic influences of hyper-masculinity.

With Foundation 4 Life as my foundation, I recognized the urgent need to support fathers in reclaiming their roles and responsibilities. I witnessed firsthand the destruction of families and communities devoid of a purposeful loving father in the home. Men must acknowledge take responsibility and initiate the transformative power of connection and love, knowing that every child deserves to hear those three simple words: "Daddy loves you."

Motivated by this vision, I have launched a GoFundMe campaign to self-publish the remaining books in the series. With a goal of raising £25,000, to fund illustrations, printing, marketing, and production of merchandise. This would allow Daddy Loves You to deliver this heartfelt message of love and responsibility through a range of mediums, reaching communities near and far.

Through the generosity and support of the community, my dream will materialize. Each donation is not just a financial contribution but a symbol of belief in the power of fatherly love and the potential for change. Together, we could rewrite the narrative and build stronger families, one child at a time.

My journey is one of redemption and personal growth, a testament to the transformative power of love and commitment. Through "Daddy Loves You", I aimed to create a world where children feel the unwavering love of their fathers, where families are reconnected, and communities thrive.

Join me on this extraordinary journey of love and redemption. Together, we can rebuild fractured hearts, empower fathers, and change the course of future generations. Your support can make a difference. Donate now and be part of the movement that celebrates the power of love, one poem at a time.

Are you an "Absent Father"? Do you miss your children? Do you wish to tell them you love them but do not know how? Your relationship with the mother has broken, seemingly irreparable, either party sees the other as unreasonable and mediation has become untenable. The parental space that once brimmed with love and dreams of a blissful future together galvanised by the birth of "Your" amazing children, is now a distant memory. Instead, pain, hate, heartache, anger, betrayal, and disappointment are the only perceived reality. Visitation rights are difficult, court orders or other barriers overshadow and nullify your rights. You feel you are unable to tell your child you love them and worry that you have no influence in "YOUR" child's life. Will they forget you? This book of ten short and meaningful poems is intended to help sanitise that space.

I have worked with children and families for over 15 years as a counsellor. Today relationships are void of the courtship of yesteryear. In a world motored by faster broadband, everything is "NOW". The virtue of patience is obsolete. Dating Apps make it possible to meet a total stranger, instantly bringing them to life in the palm of your hand. Couples are cohabiting without the necessary due diligence. The cacophony and whirlwind of love and romance unfold, then die out. Sadly, this construct without the strong foundations previously instituted by marriage often ends in parental separation leaving a lone parent and child. From my extensive work and my research, there are clear and significant differences between children of separated families and those of parents who stay together. Evidence indicates families that experience this transition are increasingly at risk of negative outcomes. Mental health and low educational attainment lead to dysfunctional choices in adult life. Whilst exiting a harmful or potentially dangerous situation is always best, self-preservation is paramount. You do have the right to live free from violence and fear. However, if the child is not at risk of harm, the father's role should not be undermined. The "responsible" father is an integral part of any child's life. come

The toxicity of an abusive domestic relationship real or perceived consumes the victim: psychologically, physically, sexually, financially, and emotionally. The tentacles of Coercive Control can leave some victims suffering Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) exiting this paradigm takes prolonged bespoke therapeutic intervention, for many; a smell, a picture, or a memento will initiate psychological and in some extreme physiological impulses which the victim may have believed long gone absorbed by the necessary path of complete severance and zero interaction to regain normality. Domestic violence is one reason for relationship breakdown many other reasons include: Trust Issues, Different Expectations, Compatibility Issues, Communication Issues, Narcissism, Pathological Passive-Aggressiveness, Life Habit Abuse, Grown Apart, Boredom, Rut, and Stagnation. All of these are issues belonging to the adults. Children inherit the fallout unwittingly. Active change between people irrespective of their personal differences over time with constructive appropriate intervention, sincere personal development, and education corrects attitudes and enhances behaviours indicative of positive child development.

These books help the despondent father to take responsibility by lowering the finger of blame and drawing a line. “It’s not about you.” Let your child know how much you love them, let them know you think of them constantly, and give them a keepsake that helps them to understand that they are not to blame but they are loved by both parents. These books serve as tools, a gift, a keepsake, a white flag for the disgruntled, and beautiful instruments to convey the sentiments of a distant father who misses his beloved children. "Children are a wonderful gift".