Breast cancer w/ 2 kids w/ rare health issues

I'm NOT the type of person to ask for help. I am the type of person that will push myself to figure everything out by myself. I'm VERY stubborn and independent but I am honestly terrified. I recently discovered that I have stage 3 breast cancer. (2 months after having my son). The cancer is aggressive and the cancer cells are spreading fast. It’s Triple Positive (ER,PR, and HER2). The KI-67 is at 42%.  Invasive ductal carcinoma and LVI.

Hearing that I have breast cancer was the last thing I thought I would ever hear. The thought of dying scares me. I don’t want to die. I barely just turned 29.

I have 3 children that are my world.

My oldest child is 10 years old and is special needs. Mariah is in a special program at school and is on a routine. She has the biggest heart and is nice to everyone. We’ve taught our children to be kind to everyone. It doesn’t matter if someone else has more money or less money. It doesn’t matter if someone is a different race. We are all equal and I am proud to say that my children see the world as everyone matters. 

We recently just discovered that Mariah has a rare chromosome defect. It's Ring Chromosome 7. If anyone else can help us understand what that means then please message us. I've found ONE other child with this in the United States. 

46,XX,r(7)(p22q36)

Our middle child is 4 years old and let me tell you about her… Hannah is our wild child. She loves to play in the dirt, has the best imagination, and is so much like me. I feel sorry for Michael. (LOL)

Our youngest child is 6 months old. He stole my heart the day he was born. 3 weeks after Colin was born the doctors told us that he had SCID (The bubble boy disease). His T-cells are low so he isn’t able to be around anyone that is sick, aren’t updated on their vaccines (including the flu shot), isn’t able to go to the stores. He basically can’t leave our home but we are able to take him on walks in the stroller. He has been getting his blood drawn monthly since we found out about his disease. The doctors still don’t know why his T-cells are low or why his immune system is weak.  We have sanitizer machines installed in our home and everyone that holds him needs to wash their hands. We have lots of mask and gloves in our home also.

 
My better half works hard and is our main support. Michael pays all of our bills and is now having to deal with another thing to stress about. He knows it's not something that we are able to control and is handling it all a lot better than I am. Having to worry about 2 of his loved ones possibly dying is a lot to handle. He tries his best to make sure our children are shown lots of love and tries to make dinner every night, regardless of working all day. In my eyes, he is perfect and a super hero. I'm very blessed to have him in my life. 

 
I found out about my Breast Cancer on September 11th 2018 and started Chemotherapy on October 12th 2018. So far is has been a LONG journey and I’m always tired. But I am fighting like hell to stay alive. I would rather survive and not have Mike and my children lose me. I lost my father last year (January 17th 2017) and it was the most traumatic experience for me.   I've had a lot of support from others online with sharing their stories and they've helped me understand how Chemo will go. So far i've lost my hair, lost a lot of my muscle (to the point that I have to ask my 4 year old to open things for me), my nails are brittle and are pealing, have had multiple infections, and so on. On top of it all, I have a rare eye disease and was getting injections in my eye for almost a year. The first Oncologist I saw said that I will most likely end up losing my eye site in my left eye. 

 
My Aunt Angie went through Breast Cancer and she beat it! I am very confident that I will beat this but know that we will need help. We have to hire someone to help us with our children, mainly Colin. He isn't able to be in a daycare and we have to find multiple nanny/babysitters. If one gets sick then we have to call the back up sitter. After each infusion, I get really sick and weak. It's hard to help Mike with our children and clean our house. I hate how dirty our house has been. I have a lot of doctor appointments and a lot of them are last minute. It's hard to find any sort of help and most of the time I have to cancel an appointment because we aren't able to find a sitter. 

I was told by a couple of friends to start a GoFundMe account and hope that others are willing to help or at least pray for my family. I wasn't sure on the amount to put so I just put a random amount and i'm sorry my post is so long. I feel like I had to explain every detail so others can understand why i'm starting this account.

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Danielle Thompson 
Organizer
Richland, WA
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