Our dream of becoming parents has not been an easy road thus far. We started on our journey to parenthood almost three years ago now and it has been nothing short of heartbreaking. It has been years of tears, needles, tests, surgeries and loss. After almost a year of trying we went to the doctor and I was told i had low progesterone and a short luteal phase. They gave me medication that was supposed to help and it did, but only for a fleeting moment. We have had three pregnancies all ending in miscarriage and the last one a D&C. I cannot even begin to explain the pain of being told that the baby who was growing in your womb's heart had stopped beating.
It has not been easy, but the Lord has blessed our marriage immensly and we have held on together through the healing process.
We have always had a heart for adoption and when we were just dating dreaming about our family we always talked about having two biological children and then adopting from there. Things have not worked out the way we planned, but in the 8 months that we took off from fertility treatments God seriously broke our heart for adoption. Every time i was down and depressed an adoption story would pop up on facebook, instagram, television, youtube, you name it. I would quietly send it along to Tim have an ugly cry and go about my day.
A couple months ago the Lord did it again. I hadn't let myself mourn my babies and it was finally hitting the both of us actually, and i came across a video on instagram. It was of a Christian couple who were dealing with infertility and she explained how looking back on their wedding day, they had no idea how heartbreaking the journey to parenthood woud be. They had decided to adopt and they announced it to their family and friends and they all reacted as if they told them they were pregnant, which is something i cant even imagine being able to tell loved ones. This video led to a series of other videos, one being of a couple who met while attending the college I attend here in Portland and are on their joourney of adoption. I actually had to laugh through my ugly cry and say, "OK God i hear you loud and clear." With excitement I showed Tim what i had experienced that day and he said "Lets do it!"...well actually he said "I've been saying lets adopt for forever now so let's do it!" which is essentially the same.
We have spent the past few months visiting adoption agencies, telling our close family and friends, choosing an adoption agency, filling out a lenghty apllication for said agency, planning fundraisers, accumulating raw materials, and now we are anxiously awaiting our homestudy packet in the mial.
This all leads me to a concept that used to have a huge sting when i would see moms talking about it. "IT TAKES A VILLAGE"
Just as it takes a village to raise a child it takes a village to adopt one. We have already been so blessed by everyone in our lives, and have been so loved and supported on this journey thus far.
The cost of adoption is pretty daunting, but we know that we serve a big God and we truly feel that we have been called to adoption. With years of pain and worrying that we would never become parents, i cannot even describe the peace that we felt the moment that we said YES.
How you can help:
-Pray!- We truly belive in the power of prayer so please pray with us, and for us. Adoption can be a long and difficult road and there is always a chance of a failed match and more heartache on this journey to bring baby Vargas home. We are praying for big things on this adoption journey.
-Give. If you feel called to give every donation helps no matter how small. We have made our goal the entire amount of the adoption because we want to be transparent in what we are doing, and how we are saving to bring baby home. Thankfully with adoption all of the fee's are due at different times, and in the beginning they are not that great, however after the homestudy is complete the biggest chunk, $14,000 is due. Thankfully we should have our tax return by then which will help tremendously. As we save, sell things, etc. we will update the ticker with what we have been able to contribute for our precious babe.
-Share. Please share this page on social media, every share can help!
Thank You! From the bottom of our hearts we want to thank you for reading through all of this first of all and for all of your love and support it truly means the world to us. I can't wait to have our sweet baby in our arms and one day be able to tell them that they were so wanted, chosen, and loved.