Pls help, divorcing overseas & facing homelessness

Hi, Carly here. I've never made anything like this before and I wish I didn't have to ask for help, but I've found myself in a very desperate situation far from home. Last year I had to move from the UK to Lisbon, Portugal, with my husband, as he got a new job here. Initially I hadn't wanted to move, but since I have no family, I didn't have an option but to go, so I decided to try and embrace it as an adventure.

For a while, it was a great experience, but from the beginning I struggled with culture shock, severe social anxiety and issues relating to me being autistic. I have not been able to work here, and the loud neighbours and thin floors are causing me unbearable daily (and nightly) stress. My mental health has deteriorated hugely this year and I did not leave the house for five months over the spring and summer, due to overwhelming anxiety. My physical health is suffering too. 

I have been feeling very homesick for the rural Welsh town I grew up in and I know that if I can get back there, I can get some respite, access help, therapy and support, meet my friends and feel able to be a part of a community again. My plan is to find work or self-employment, which is very difficult here in Portugal. However my husband earns all the money and is refusing to pay for me to return to the UK, except for the flight, the shipping of my items and 3 days accommodation. I am terrified of being left alone in the UK with no family, money or housing, whilst having to care for my 6 year-old daughter (he is her step-dad). The stress of all of this has resulted in us agreeing to divorce, as he will not move house.  My depression and anxiety is spiralling, I cannot sleep and I sometimes think of ending it all. This has been the hardest year of my life, but I know with some help I can get through this, as I've overcome huge obstacles in the past. 

Thank you for reading this far. I am kindly asking for any donation that you may be able to make, as this would go towards helping me buy food and essential items for my daughter and myself when back in the UK. I would also like to be able to pay for any emergency accommodation I might need, as I am very scared of becoming homeless and having my daughter taken away. Just knowing that there is money there that I could use would be a huge relief and would help make this whole ordeal much less stressful. 

Please let me know if there is any online work you would like me to do for you in return, as I believe strongly in returning favours. I would hugely appreciate any kind of help at all right now, even just a few words of kindness. It makes such a difference. 

Much love.

Donations

  • Anonymous 
    • €100 
    • 5 d
  • Anonymous 
    • €200 
    • 12 d
  • Anonymous 
    • €200 
    • 13 d
  • Andrea Fechner 
    • €200 
    • 13 d

Organizer

Carly B 
Organizer
Lisboa, Vila Franca do Campo, Portugal
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