Too Much For My Shoulders,TIAA!

This hump day I am asking for help getting over, what has become, a gigantic hump. As some of you know, I have been solely supporting my kids, my cats, myself, and now my mother. The wasband was also supported solely by me during his two years of unemployment. The "Why" on that is his story to tell, but suffice it to say carrying it all on my shoulders (I am an only child) has taken a terrible toll on me, and on my kids. (The cats remain unfazed as does the wasband.) TIAA has refused to release funds to help my mother financially. We are in the process if getting her house ready for sale. This has necessitated many trips to Connecticut, and I have more ahead of me. I want to sell the house I co-own, but I cannot afford the fixes that must be done to make it sellable. The wasband has lived there without hot water for years. He claims he cannot pay to fix it. I do not have the means to challenge him in court. I am currently living in numerous circles of hell. Mea culpa for having to ask for help, but I would not have to ask but for fucking TIAA being a horrible investment company. Initially I wanted to set this up as "May I borrow $20.00?" Because it feels better to borrow somehow, but then I remember Judge Judy saying "if you help a friend or family member it is better to give it than loan it." I have looked at other avenues for financial relief. I simply do not qualify. All I want to be able to do is be in the black until June when my mother's financial situation should be resolved with TIAA. But while I wait, we need shelter, food, and clothes. Fuck TIAA. Seriously!