My name is Brian. I am her son.
I've known this woman for 25 years of my entire existence. She has always been there for me throughout my entire life. Through the thick , and the thin. Through the highs , and the lows. She has always been a person I could rely on to stay over for the night at her place , come and grab a home-cooked meal , or just be an inspiration of intelligent conversation. She was an incredible mother , a terrific person , and a kind hearted outgoing individual.
My mother had a very "dark" past. She battled with a failing marriage with my father , she became addicted to prescription pills after a severe back injury and surgery , was an alcoholic , and turned her back on her immediate family for a life of binge drinking , and narcotic use.
This in turn hurt our family at the time. Many people in the family turned their back to her , she was evicted out of our families house , and left homeless on the street to fend all on her own.
After a few years of isolation. I was the only person in the family to reach back out to her , to establish a connection with her yet again. What I came to find is that my mom was a completely different person.
Once a person who was battling with addiction , she became clean , turned her life around , got into a housing program , and got back on her feet. Even though she was technically on welfare , she still was self sufficient and was always looking for any temp work , or job opportunities she could take on.
At this time I would spend a lot of my days staying over her new place. Reconnecting with a person in which was isolated from our family for awhile , and got closer than ever with this woman. Over the past few years my mother has had a whole change of heart and shown me a side to a person that when I was younger , I never truly understood.
Deep down , my mom was a beautiful , intelligent , kind-hearted soul that would do anything for me. Once homeless , she took me in when I had nowhere to go and would give me shelter in the times that I needed it myself once she had it herself.
She was very healthy , and independent for a long time. But sadly this all changed...
My Mother got diagnosed in April of 2013 with Lung Cancer.
It came as a shock , we took her to the hospital and in the next second found this out. It was a hellish thing to discover in the person you love most.
I never looked into her prognosis , she was clear enough to let me know any details ; at least that's what I thought.
This is what I didn't know...
My mother at the time was diagnosed with Stage 4 Small Cell Extensive Lung Cancer with a window of less than a year to live.
She hid this from me.
As time progressed she received chemo therapy constantly , and eventually she started to feel better. And told me there was nothing to worry about and that things would be fine.
Little did I know...
This cancer would take my mother from me in September of 2013.
My mother got off of treatment in August. She told me that she was "in remission". This was to not make me scared. She got very sick come the beginning of September and went back to the doctors.
When she arrived they sent her right to the hospital.
She had extremely low white blood cell count , and needed multiple transfusions just to sustain a normal level.
This wreaked havoc on her body. The hospital did an MRI to find that the cancer had metastasized to her spine , and then into her brain. She was immediately transferred to Boston Medical Center to get a weeks worth of intensive radiation treatment.
I thought that when I visited her there , that she would be the same person that I knew the week earlier before all of this. I mean just two days before I spoke with her in person , she was weak but she could communicate efficiently with me at least?
Well , sad to say she wasn't the same person. She was completely in a vegetative state and could barely speak because it took too much strength to say a word.
She suffered for two days and on September 21st 2013 my mother passed away in Boston Medical Center.
She was all alone , with no friends , no family , or anybody close by her side. She died without any of her friends by her side at all.
But she still has TONS of friends and family , that she hasn't connected with in years that are willing to come and celebrate her life in a memorial setting at Dolan Funeral Home in Milton , MA.
I wish I knew that this would of happened. I would of put her on life insurance , I would of got power of attorney , I would of done a lot of things to help my mother , but the fact she hid this from me to protect my feelings about it has caused a problem financially.
She didn't have life insurance , she didn't even have a private health care to put her into Bringham & Womans , and she didn't have any assets after death since she was destitute.
Now 2 days after my mothers death we are faced with a funeral bill of 3500$ that needs to be covered in order to give her the proper ceremony , and proper cremation that this amazing person deserves.
My mother had a large amount of localized family , friends , and people that need to pay tribute to her last moments in a public forum before everything is settled and at peace , and we can't do this because of the high cost of a proper funeral service.
This is when reaching out via Social networks and other resources can mean the most.
So please , if you find it in your heart , are a generous kind hearted person , know my mother personally , or are just in the mood of giving please consider any form of a donation , whether it's 10$ or 100$ , every dollar will go towards this funeral service to ensure her soul can rest at peace and fully be remembered the way that it should.
Any personal donation will ensure you receive an invitation to the ceremony that will be held.
Thank you from the bottom of me and my families hearts ,
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