We have started this page to raise money to fund surrogacy for our friend Hayley and her husband Ben. Hayley was brought up in West Sussex, England before she moved to Australia four years ago to live with her husband Ben – whom she married in England in August 2016.
I'm sure you will find the below upsetting and hard to imagine but this is their reality.
- On 11th November 2017 Hayley & Ben and lost their first child in stillbirth at 36 weeks gestation due to a rare case of sudden fetomaternal haemorrhage. They had a beautiful baby girl and named her Erica Rae.
- Within one month of this heartbreak Hayley was diagnosed with Cancer: stage 2, B Cell Follicular Lymphoma. Very rare for someone aged just 35.
Hayley started 6 months of chemotherapy in February 2018, that was incredibly challenging and felt never ending. Following a PET scan in the August 2018, she was deemed in remission. However, although this type of blood cancer is treatable, it has a chance of coming back in the future as there is no current cure.
- Hayley & Ben wished to try starting a family again, however, they could only do this safely 12 months after her final immunotherapy infusion. As she was in remission her doctor was willing to make a compromise on her treatment and cease the immunotherapy after four-six cycles. As this was an important decision to make they opted to have another PET scan to be sure this was safe.
- As a result of this PET scan in April this year Hayley was told that her lymphoma was still in remission, however a hot spot was showing near her cervix, unfortunately after further tests the doctors confirmed Hayley had cervical cancer and would need an emergency radical hysterectomy.
This was devastating news meaning they will no longer be able to carry their own baby. There only option to have their own children in Australia is through altruistic gestational surrogacy.
Before beginning chemotherapy she was able to have emergency fertility treatment, freezing four embryos.
This is just a fraction of their story and there is so much more that we could tell you. Not only are they dealing with unimaginable loss, they are also under huge financial pressure again; all while grieving their the loss of their daughter. Hayley has written a blog about her experiences so far, definitely worth a read. www.facebook.com/fightingforafamily
Hayley and Ben have shown incredible courage, love and solidarity as a couple throughout their devastating experience. Their positivity and strength has been breathtaking; helplessly watching our lovely friends go through this has been horrendous, so we are asking from the bottom of our hearts for anything that you can spare, to ease this financial stress, when they are already going through so much.
The money raised will be going towards fees for Fertility Treatment, Legal Advice, Counselling and Psychological Assessments, Pregnancy and Birth, Parentage Order and Other costs. The following link explains more about the costs involved. www.sarahjefford.com/altruistic-surrogacy-how-much-will-it-cost/
The initial cost for Ben and Hayley to be able to start their surrogacy journey is £10,000.
Hayley is continuing with the remainder of her immunotherapy and is focused on rebuilding her strength for her future dream of starting a family with Ben.
Thank you for reading and for anything you can do to help.@family4oakleys
Friends and family of Hayley and Ben x