Help fund surrogacy life after multiple heartbreak

Hayley and Ben's story



Hayley moved to Australia in 2015 to be with her husband Ben. They moved to the rolling hills of Berry in New South Wales at the end of 2016 to start a family. They quickly fell pregnant with a beautiful baby girl, who they named Erica Rae. Sadly, on 11/11/2017 Hayley and Ben lost Erica in a stillbirth at 38 weeks due to a rare foetal maternal haemorrhage.
 
Within one month of this heartbreak Hayley was diagnosed with Stage 2/3 B Cell Follicular Lymphoma, very rare for someone aged only 35. After losing Erica, this was another devastating blow for Hayley and Ben.
 
Hayley and Ben opted to have emergency fertility treatment and were able to preserve four embryos. Three days after the egg retrieval, Hayley started six long months of chemotherapy and went into remission in August 2018.
 
Hayley and Ben wanted to try to start a family again, and opted for a follow-up PET scan in March 2019 to make sure it was safe. Tragically, doctors found a hotspot near her cervix and diagnosed her with cervical cancer.
 
Within weeks of the diagnosis, Hayley had to make the decision to to have an emergency radical hysterectomy. This means Hayley is no longer able to carry her own baby.


In March 2020 Hayley suffered a recurrence of the cervical cancer and underwent 5 gruelling weeks of intensive radiotherapy and brachytherapy to fight it off. Although Hayley still has her ovaries, with the damaging effects of chemotherapy and radiotherapy, she is now pre-menopausal and most likely infertile. Therefore doctors have advised against an attempt to retrieve any more eggs.


It has now been almost four years since their loss of Erica and they are finally ready to start trying for a family again. The only option remaining for Hayley and Ben to achieve this is through surrogacy, and for that they need your help.


Hayley and Ben are excited to introduce you to their beautiful surrogate, Carmen, who they have spent the past year building a wonderful relationship and friendship with. With COVID restrictions relaxed, they were recently able to meet face to face and spend time together with Carmen and her lovely family in Queensland. It was there that the offical surrogacy offer was generously and lovingly made by Carmen and gratefully accepted by Hayley and Ben.
 
Hayley and Ben have shown incredible courage, love and solidarity as a couple throughout their horrific experience.
 
Their positivity and strength has been breathtaking; helplessly watching this loving couple go through this has been horrendous, so we are asking from the bottom of our hearts for any help you can give them, when they have already been through so much.
 
The money raised will be going towards fees for fertility treatment, legal advice and surrogacy agreement, counselling and psychological assessments, pregnancy, maternity and birth expenses, interstate travel, parentage order and other related costs.
 
The following links explain more about the costs involved:

www.sarahjefford.com/altruistic-surrogacy-how-much-will-it-cost/ 

https://sarahjefford.com/surrogacy-costs-in-australia/
 
You can keep up to date on Hayley and Ben’s journey here: www.facebook.com/fightingforafamily 

Special thanks to Harry Malcolm, Content Production Specialist Cancer Council Australia for support Hayley and Ben in making the video.
 
Thank you for reading and for anything you can do to help.
 
Friends and family of Hayley and Ben


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    • £20 
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    • £15 
    • 2 mos
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    • £30 
    • 3 mos
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    • £10 
    • 3 mos
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    • £10 
    • 6 mos
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Organizer and beneficiary

Vicky Holliday 
Organizer
Ashington, South East England, United Kingdom
Hayley Oakley 
Beneficiary
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