We have been married for about five years now, with lots of love, laughter, and fun times. We started trying to conceive right after we were married and couldn't wait until we were pregnant. I had everything planned in my head, how we would tell our families, who we wanted to be at the first ultrasound, how we wanted the nursery decorated, and even keeping a pregnancy journal. A few months passed and no good news, so we tried another few months. After six months of trying to conceive, we went to a fertility specialist, which was so frightening.
We both had testing done and I was diagnosed with Policystic Ovarian Disease and Low Ovarian Reserve, (I was born with the Low Ovarian Reserve). I sat in the doctors office crying and worried about what my husband would say or if he would be disappointed and upset with me. I felt like it was my fault, his tests were normal, so it's me, I'm the problem. A lot of you don't know my husband, but he is an amazing man, so kind and worry free, but he never blamed me or questioned what he wanted. So without even thinking, we started fertility treatment. Four and half years of fertility treatments with no pregnancies, hundreds of blood draws, ultrasounds, ovulation kits, pregnancy tests, doctor appointments, medications, side effects from the medication, money and tears, all we are left with is heart ache.
This has been so painful for the both of us. We are meant to be parents, the desire is so strong in our hearts. Depression has played a big part in this journey for me, feeling hopeless, withdrawn. I didn't want to go to family functions or other engagments because I was afraid someone might ask the question ( when are you going to pop some kids out) and I would just start crying, because my heart is broken. This consumed me, I thought of this multiple times a day, would cry for hours, but he never left my side. People would assume we are just waiting to have kids, and tell us "hurry up", "what are you waiting for". This would crush me, but my husband would grab my hand and squeeze it tight then say politely "when it's our time", as I would fight back the tears. Watching other couples become parents so easy or seeing pregnancy announcements on social media was so difficult. We want babies more than anything, so that is why we are asking for your help in making our dreams come true by adoption. We are so excited to start a family, but it is very expensive and overwhelming.
Please consider helping us so we can bring a child into a loving family. We want our home filled with giggles, laughter and the sound of tiny feet running around. We don't care about the baby announcements or what the nursery looks like, this is not important anymore. We care about bringing a baby into a safe and loving environment, where we can grow together as a family, create memories with tons of new and old traditions. We have been blessed with a fantastic family, they want to see our little one playing with their cousins, running to grandma and grandpa, and falling asleep in our arms. Every time we look at our child, we will think of the generous people who made this happen.
When we think about adoption, it is hard to have faith in the process, but nothing compared to what the birth mom is going thru. We are using a reputable adoption agency that works with birth moms all over the country. We will create our profile with our story along with photos. The birth mom will pick us and we will travel to her, which will be very exciting. Once we are chosen by a birth mother, we will need to complete a home study, hire a lawyer and pay all the adoption fees, which costs a lot.
We have a long road ahead of us but with your help, we will have a baby in our arms soon. We are ready, it is time, we will never take our child for granted, but instead will cherish each moment, even the hard times and pay it forward one day. Our hearts are full of joy and excitement, thank you for your donation, you have no idea what this means to us, and we will never forget who helped us. Any amount you can afford is greatly appreciated. If you cannot afford to donate, then please send your prayers. God has helped heal our broken hearts, and we pray for other couples who are starting their journey with infertility. It is a long and horrible journey, may the Lord have mercy.
Andrew and Katie
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