Calli and Tim are some of my dear friends, and I know they will make the best parents. That is a gift that I want to be a part of giving to them! There are so many little details that will be left out in order to try to condense their journey, but please feel free to ask. If I do not know the answer, I will be happy to try to find out for you.
Let me begin by saying thank you for even taking the time to learn more about their journey, which is not easy for them to open up and share. I completely realize your time is precious and life is full, and I am humbled that you would consider helping to fulfill their dream and desire to start a family.
Calli and Tim met in Spring of 2011 and were married January 12, 2013. I loved getting to share that special season in their lives with them. Calli wanted to wait until after their first year of marriage before starting to try to conceive. However, with the overwhelming desire to begin a family, they started trying to conceive in Fall 2013.
Calli went to her OB regularly, and after trying naturally for one year, her doctor recommended going to a fertility doctor. Contrary to his recommendation, they believed, hoped, and prayed that they would conceive naturally. After about two years of trying naturally, they continued with her OB doing different tests and procedures, bloodwork, and a few medicated cycles. Everything appeared to be normal with no particular issues that would be a hindrance.
Still hoping and praying and not going to a fertility specialist, in January 2016 at her regular OB visit, her doctor discovered, through a normal exam, a cervical polyp that needed to be removed. He scheduled her procedure at his earliest available date of January 31, 2016. During her surgery, they discovered and removed endometrial and scar tissue, which they never knew she had throughout their years of testing and trying. Calli believes the Lord planted that polyp, which would allow the doctor to remove all of her severe Endometriosis. Although they do have health insurance, it does not pay for any fertility related tests, procedures, medications, etc. Since the doctor was going in for the polyp and not fertility issues, it was considered a medical issue, which their health insurance helped cover. This was an answer to their prayers and a step in the right direction!
After this procedure, statistics show that most couples naturally conceive within the first few months. Given this information and still believing for a natural birth, they wanted to continue trying and holding off going to a fertility doctor. Long story short, they did not get pregnant during that time, and began seeing a fertility specialist in June 2016. Since then, with prayer and consideration, they went through 2 cycles of IUIs with IVF medication and injections; both of which were unsuccessful. Going through that time with her was heartbreaking. There is nothing I could do, other than being there for her. Calli was extremely hopeful, which made for an even more upsetting and trying disappointment. Also, since she was able to see the follicles/eggs during those treatments, it made her completely attached to them, and when there was no pregnancy, she also felt as if she were mourning the loss of children.
Following her last unsuccessful IUI cycle, her fertility doctor recommended she not proceed with any more IUI cycles. He recommended her to have an ERA test (checking her endometrial receptivity and implantation timing), followed by IVF, using frozen embryos and genetic testing. Each of these additions to the normal IVF will just increase their chance of conceiving and carrying a healthy pregnancy.
And this is where we are at today. Her, their, fertility treatments all have to be paid in full before they may proceed. It is not the same as in the medical world. Although they pay hundreds a month for health insurance, their insurance does not assist in the procedures, and you do not set up a payment plan to pay after, as you would with other medical procedures.
Here is where we, you and I, come in. We have been given an opportunity that will be crucial in helping them start their family and fulfill their journey of pregnancy. I believe that this will not only be the greatest blessing for them, but that it will also bless each of us. Maybe you cannot afford to give financially, but I am sure that you could give them the gift of prayer during this time. It has been a season of high highs and low lows for them, so I know that they not only welcome prayerful support but also need each of them. I am very grateful for your time, and may the Lord bless you and your family beyond what you could ask or imagine.
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