In Loving Memory of Thomas Adams

Thomas Helmer Adams was a loving husband, father, grandfather & friend.  On February 22, 2014, his two-year battle with squamous cell cancer came to an end.  We do not see this as a battle lost but as a battle well fought.  He was and will forever be our super hero.

Tom did not lose his battle with cancer. He lived graciously and courageously with it until the very end. In many, many ways, by inspiring and teaching us, he won his battle in other very important ways. He was a wonderful role model right to the end. He never stopped smiling & never stopped loving.  

He did not lose his battle with cancer.  He won his battle with cancer and, sadly, he also died from cancer.  

We know that Tucker is in Heaven, singing at the top of his lungs to Neil Diamond's 'Sweet Caroline' (and incredibly out-of-tune too).  Being a courageous soul himself, we know that he would want others to feel peace, joy & comfort during their battle with cancer.

It is the family's wishes rather than sending flowers & gifts, to have charitable donations made in Thomas' honor and sent to the appropriate foundations.  The family is still in the process of deciding which foundation and/or organization would honor the life of Thomas the best - and in turn, offer funds for cancer prevention & treatment.

The family thanks you for your kind words, love & encouragement during this difficult time.









Obiturary:

Thomas "Tom" Helmer Adams, 69, of New Milford, Connecticut, passed away, Saturday, February 22, 2014 peacefully at his home. He was a heroic cancer fighter. A Celebration of Life service will be held at 11:00 am, Saturday, March 1st at Lillis Funeral Home, 58 Bridge Street in New Milford, Connecticut. Father Fred Langlois will be officiating. Memorials may be made to www.gofundme.com/72j6f0 and will be gifted to the Diebold Family Cancer Center of New Milford. Thomas was born August 19, 1944 in Sparta, Wisconsin to Thomas and Jennie (Hove) Adams. He graduated from Jefferson High School in 1962. He served in the Air Force from 1962 to 1966. In August 27, 1966 he married Elisabeth "Betty" Stengel. He received his teaching degree from the University of Wisconsin Whitewater in 1970 and taught English at Jefferson High School for eight years. While in Jefferson, he was the High School's assistant wrestling coach and drama coach. He served on the Jefferson City Council, President of Gemuetlichkeit Days and he and his wife were King & Queen in 1980. In 1985, Tom & his family moved to Minnesota, where he worked for Crystal Cabinets for 13 years, in Sales & Training. Eventually he and Betty moved to New Milford, Connecticut where he worked for Wood-mode Cabinetry, as a Sales Representative and Training Director. He was an avid golfer and member of the Mahopac Country Club and a truly dedicated Wisconsin Whitewater & Green Bay Packer football fan. He was an active member of the Knights of Columbus, Post 31 American Legion and the National Kitchen & Bath Association. He was quite the storyteller, loved to read, spending time with his wife, sons and grandchildren. Tom was preceded in death by his parents, Jennie & Tom Adams, his stepfather Norris Arentz and his brother Dennis Adams. Tom is survived by his brothers, Rick (Debi) & Randy (Jamie) of Sparta, Wisconsin and Ronnie (Linda) of LaCrosse, Wisconsin, his wife Betty of 47 years; his three sons- Wesley Adams (Traci) of Big Lake, Minnesota, John Adams (Pearl) of Willimantic, Connecticut, and William Adams (Tyler) of Oakland, California. He has three grandchildren, Brook, Matthew & Dakota and two step-grandchildren Haley & Hunter and one step-great-grandchild Lily.
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Will Adams 
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Oakland, CA
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