Help Fiance Into New Home

In February or March of 2016, my Fiance Danz moved into a place that would eventually be known only as "The Groutage".

When he first moved there, the worst crimes were the building's "apartments" themselves (they are very illegal apartments according to the Landlord Tenancy Act, Danz' is literally a 10'x20' room with a sink that doesn't work, a mini fridge i had to buy, and a hot plate i had to buy. The bathroom is communal and down the hall and it doesn't lock). The only substance running rampant in the building was alcohol. Life wasn't too stressful, but everything went downhill when the man that kept drugs out of the building moved away.

In 2017 and 2018, the building became worse and worse. More drugs moved in with the landlord renting to drug addicts. In Feb 2018, a young man and friend of my fiance was killed- whether by drugs or by someone he owed money to, we are uncertain. 

The reputation of the building has fallen once more to a meth house. Everyone is warned to stay away from "The Groutage". People passing by to get to the foot bridge make sneering remarks about the building and its residents. People who do not live in the building climb the fire escapes to get in, or they break the lock on the security door meant to keep them out. Exposed needles lay about the property and the fire department is summoned at least three times a month. The little old lady next door sleeps with a pistol in her bedside table.

And my fiance is stuck here.

Due to the anxiety and depression this place enhances, he has been unable to find work. The reputation alone is enough to make employers and even doctors turn their noses up and snub him. He's gone without much needed medical help simply because of the place he happens to live. When he was recently assaulted, he was hammered with questions about his drug habits (when there are none to begin with).

All because of the reputation this place holds, people assume he's an addict. People assume he's on drugs. Always assuming. It's depressing.

He's been physically assaulted more than once by people who live here. He's been cut by knives, hit with a hammer, he's gotten a minimum of four concussions from people knocking him in the head over the stupidest things. One man beat him senseless because he thought Danz was referring to him when he said "goofy" in reference to his own cat (some may not know that "goof" in canada means a child molestor).

A man was recently charged with assault (after 9 months) for kicking him in the head. That man only got 9 days interim jail time (i.e. weekend duty).

Just last week (the morning of the 18th), Danz tried asking the neighbor next door to turn his music down (he blares it so loud you can basically feel it in your chest like you're at a concert). The neighbor proceeded to bash his face in, breaking his nose to the point where he had to have a minor reconstructive surgery. We weren't allowed to press charges because my fiance had been seen carrying a bat. A bat he carries now because of incidents like this.

The kicker is that my fiance had to pull the fire alarm for police to even respond to his call.

37945588_1553663646842233_r.jpeghours after he got home from the hospital, his nose was still bleeding.

And that's not even to mention the numerous break-ins and the things that have been stolen. Break-ins that started in August/September- shortly after we pressed charges on the guy kicking Danz in the head. The landlord has blamed my fiance each time for the break-ins. He has replaced the lock twice and the door once. I have had to replace two locks myself from the landlord refusing to replace them. FOUR LOCKS AND TWO DOORS IN SEVEN MONTHS. We find it odd that we'd had no problems with break-ins until this assault charge. We find it odd that it's only Danz being targeted and nobody else.


Things that have been stolen include:

Two Xbox Ones (chrismas 2017 and Christmas 2018 that i bought for us)
A Telus phone (i forgot which)
NES Classic
SNES Classic
Wallet with ID and SSN card

Essentially we need to get Danz out of this place. Unfortunately, without work and on welfare, it isn't easy. Because of the break-ins, he can't even leave his place. This last break-in happened while he was out for ONLY 20 MINUTES:

37945588_1553663396821285_r.jpegfaceplate torn from frame

37945588_1553663429341024_r.jpegsteel "security" door pried apart

37945588_1553663454556370_r.jpegthe deadbolt was forced open. I had to take a hammer to it to get it out of the door because of the piece in the top:

This is a very dangerous place for him to be living. The stress and anxiety causes his psoriasis to be uncontrollable, which in turn makes people judge him even more. The depression causes him to drink, and he cant even go to a doctor to get his liver checked. He needs out and fast.

I am asking for $3,000 for several reasons.

At least $1,500 of that will be needed for deposits and first month's rent to a lot of places. The remaining $1,500 is so that we can try to get his anxiety under control for a few months in order for him to find work. We didn't want to go this route, but have absolutely no other options right now. Homelessness isn't an option, as he has a kitty that is his only anchor and rock right now while I still live 4 hours away.


We super appreciate any and all help given, even if it's just sharing this!

*Note: because i am a US Citizen and he is a Canadian citizen, he cannot stay with me long-term. To even get border crossing ID for him, we have to drive over 4 hours to the city that offers those types of IDs

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Dani Whelchel 
Moses Lake, WA
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