Asking as promised 4 ANYTHING needed

Dear Friends and Family,

By suggestion of my brother John I have finally decided to put my pride aside and ask for help from all of you being I am not able to get help from any of the local non-profits nor State agencies. While many of you know me very well there are still things you may not know, so please bear with me as I enlighten those that don’t. Many of you have always said if my boys and I EVER NEEDED ANYTHING, just ask and you will be there for us too.

Financially I am a completely single mom. I have 3 boys ages 15, 11, and 9. In January 2018 my oldest decided to moved to be with his dad being my house was going into foreclosure and I didn’t have extra money. My middle son is with me all but 1 month over the summer per year. His dad does pay non-ordered monthly child support in the amount of $300. My youngest son is with me 365 days a year. His dad has court ordered monthly child support through the Department of Social Services since he was 2 yrs old in the amount of $57. He does not pay unless he gets caught ever 6 months and pays a purge to be released from jail OR the IRS garnishes it from his taxes. I started receiving unemployment the last week of May 2018 after I was relieved from my open ended temporary job with a law firm after 6 months that I thought was becoming permanent. I have 1 unemployment payout left.

After my youngest son was born I found that I would never let us see this situation like I did as a child. My mommy busted her butt sometimes working 2 to 3 jobs just to make sure I was provided for because I am nine years younger than my sibling above me. Many of my siblings also busted their butts to help mom to be able to provide for me. So with the anticipation to not have to put my kids through that I went to college. I have an Associates degree in paralegal and a Bachelors degree in science in legal studies because I wanted to pursue medication to practice family law as an attorney. While law school is on the back burner until the boys get a little bit older, the goal is still in mind and I talk to the boys about it all the time. My boys are very proud of how hard I have worked for them, and they tell me every day. Yeah even though I have busted my butt I keep getting knocked down here follicle about rock bottom. Right now at this point I can honestly say I’m convinced we have reached that point I said I’m having each other.

The 2 main people that have always lifted me up emotionally and/or helped so I didn’t sink to the rock bottom are my Mommy and my brother David. One of the hardest days of my life who is on January 1, 2017 with my brother had a set an onset heart attack taking his life with only moments after just a hair after midnight. My fiancé of 6 1/2 years bailed on us three days later to pursue his life with someone else. Then six days later my best friend of 16 years committed the ultimate betrayal. Now about four weeks ago my mom he was diagnosed with a stage four rare of colon cancer which has not been very kind to her.

I lost my “Barbie Dream House” in March 2018 as I had to sell it or face foreclosure. I was fortunate enough to find the only apartment complex in the area and keep the boys in their school. Fortunately it is income restricted and section 8 qualified. The boys were scared though because they have never lived in an apartment before, and not to mention going from living in a 3,000 sq.ft. house on a quarter acre was a dramatic change. It took them a day or 2 but then they were making friends with everyone and they absolutely love living there.

I’ve even made some great friends there too even as anti social as I am. I am a DV survivor after countless abusive relationships on different levels. With all of that in addition to countless other things in my life I have been battling PTSD and PTSD Anxiety for the last 11 years. Last October I discovered I also have BPD. After a lot of chaos trying to get into our apartment properly the boys and I were finally able to move into a unit in March and then finally into our proper unit in May.

About 2–3 weeks after we moved into the apartment I was relieved from my temporary position at the law firm I had been with for six months. I’m told that I was absolutely brilliant in that I would end up somewhere they could truly appreciate in value incredible knowledge I bring to the table. I filed for unemployment and it was granted. The two most unfortunate things about that though were that the monthly payout was nowhere even close to her monthly living expenses just to barely get by And there were only a couple of weeks of pay out.

I have applied to countless positions till I am blue in the face. I have had a few interviews that I thought were very successful but did not turn out that way. So in order to start bringing in some sort of income I started a small business taking leads that we come from craigslist. To this point since May I have only had two clients.

The boys and I almost lost our apartment last month and the day before the final day I was able to get it in emergency stipend from the department of social services as long as I could pay the remaining $400 of my rent balance. They advised me that they only provide $500 for a rent stipend per year. I checked in with The Cabarrus Housing Authority and they said they could not help me because their waiting list for section 8 is closed. I told her I already live in the complex that except section 8 and if that would make things easier, she told me know because the list was closed. She referred me to go to the Salvation Army in inquire about their shelter program.

I went back to the department of social services a few weeks ago so that I can try to get housing assistance before it came close to my rent being due again. The lady asked me if I had a job and I told her I did not. She told me that and less I had a job he could not offer me housing assistance. I looked at her with tears in my eyes and I told her I have been trying but I’m not having any luck and because of that my kids and I are going to end up living in my car. The only response I got from her was “You end up homeless and living in your car, just have faith.“ so I looked at her and said what do I do for the time being until that miracle happens? She said I just needed to be patient and I needed to get a job.

My problem is trying to get a job but I am too smart. Food chain, department store, and labor corporations will not hire me because of my employment background whether it’s from my resume or professional postings. The only thing she was able to help me with was to pay my electric bill and apparently she said that was from a different payout program.

I talk to a person that lives nearby me and she said it took her three years to get her section 8 accepted. I have just received the final unemployment payout today and I have no idea what we are going to do. There is no way for me to pay my rent by the 15th, my car insurance, my phone, school fees, and my car payment which will be 3 months behind on the 24th, and I missed a traffic court date last week to add injury to insult.

I have fought so hard to keep us above water but I’m so beat down and exhausted that I don’t even know what else to do because obviously there are no help resources for people like me. I’ve always been the giver and never asked for help from anyone. I’m what I like to call a “closed hand giver”, I give without expectation other than verbal gratitude. It’s embarrassing to admit defeat.

My brother convinced me that it was at least worth a small shot to create a Go Fund Me Page and see if anyone would be willing to help. So with all of that being said if anyone can help I would greatly appreciate it. If you would like me to do any chores locally in exchange I will gladly do it. Even if you don’t want to send funds to me you can send them to the providers, my PayPal or my Zelle. Thank you for your kind consideration and not making fun of my unfortunate situation.

With Kind Respects,
Margaret

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Margaret Salyers 
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Mount Pleasant, NC
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