My Beautiful Mums Funeral

Our mama was the best person in the world. She would sit and listen to anything you'd have to say without judgement. She was a best friend, an amazing mum, sister, cousin, wife and everything you can think of, she was it. She was perfect. My mam had so many health issues, but marched on anyway!
A few months ago we noticed a lump on her stomach, she insisted she was fine, wasn't in any pain and that she didn't want to waste anyones time going to the hopsital. Due to the last time she went and almost not coming out, she was rightfully petrified. But as time went on she started sleeping more and more, rather than having kips she would have full sleeps from about 2pm, then 12pm, then 10am and so on. We knuckled it down to the lump weighing her down and making her sleepy. She was becoming quite low, and getting fed up as you can imagine. One morning, after my sister helped her to the bathroom (she was losing strength in her legs and couldn't hold herself up anymore. She was also not eating as well, and she didn't lose any weight, but she couldn't eat a full meal at all.)
After my sister helped her and went back to bed, she checked up on her again, everything seemed fine. My mum also developed restless leg syndrome so she was usually moving in her sleep so my sister deemed that normal. Checked on her again within the hour and noticed her feet were blue and she wasn't breathing. This all seems like such a nightmare. The call I received from my frantic sister will haunt me to this day, as well as watching paramedics perform CPR, which was sadly too late.
I'm not exaggerating when I say this, but she was honestly the best person in the world. She was kind, caring, an absolute beautiful person overall.
After the autopsy as it was an unexpected death, nothing came back about a lump, but instead a vein in the right side of her heart was slowly collapsing. Side note: I put her on slimfast for a few weeks before this as I thought maybe it was weight related but nothing changed. Just got worse.
My mother was on benefits, but sadly as my father is working full time, we may not get the grant from the government. We are on a low income and the funeral home doesn't do repayments like finance. A direct cremation will cost £2,000. But we wanted a memorial service as its our mother! We want the best for her as you can imagine. That is around £3,000 and that's not including the scattering of the ashes. So please donate anything you can, as little as you can (every little helps!) and please share this. We'd be so grateful.
Never in a million years I thought i'd lose my mum this soon, but it happened and we need to say a proper goodbye, she deserves it.
x

Donations ()

  • Richard Deeks 
    • £60 
    • 25 mos
  • Said Farazi sardhai  
    • £20 
    • 25 mos
  • Julie Manlove 
    • £10 
    • 25 mos
  • Selvi Özkarsli  
    • £8 
    • 26 mos
  • Andy Mason 
    • £10 
    • 26 mos
See all

Organizer

Kosmic Kirstie 
Organizer
Hoddesdon, East of England, United Kingdom
  • #1 fundraising platform

    People have raised more money on GoFundMe than anywhere else. Learn more

  • GoFundMe Guarantee

    In the rare case that something isn’t right, we will refund your donation. Learn more

  • Expert advice, 24/7

    Contact us with your questions and we’ll answer, day or night. Learn more