Some of you may know me as that person with the tiny backpack, a cat dad (hey shug!), a friend in community, a gym buddy, coworker, a total nerd who could talk for days about how terrible social media is for us and how important books are, an ex jock/basketball bb, a hippie nature boy you run into at turtle hole, or that person who always brings it back to what's happening right now astrologically.
Some of you may not know me at all.
Regardless, I'm reaching out to folks to ask for support in making this gender-affirming surgery possible for me.
I've been wanting to have top surgery for years now, and I think before about a year and a half ago, I had just resigned to believing that it was too expensive, "unrealistic", and that it would never happen for me. Then, a dear friend was like: just make a consultation appointment and see how it goes!!
I made an appointment with a surgeon, went to that appointment, and for the first time the surgery actually felt real, and possible.
I have been saving for over a year now, and have a date set. I hope to have top surgery in March 2019 in North Carolina (where I call home). The total cost of my surgery is $8,900, which is uhm....STEEP. Originally, I tried to apply for independent loans, medical credit loans, and a raise in the limit on my credit card, thinking these would be the best and easiest options. I was thinking I could do it all on my own, and wouldn't have to ask anyone for help. After being denied for loans and a credit limit increase, I just started saving, and hoping I'd be able to save enough in one year on my own.
$8,900 is a lot of money though, and at this point I really do need some help.
I have saved and sent $4,800 off to the practice that I am having the surgery with. Which puts me a little over halfway to what I need.
The goal of the fundraiser is $4,000. It is my hope that if I continue working as much as I can in these next few months, and am able to raise $4,000 here, I should be in a place to not only have surgery on the date that I've set for myself, but also to be able to support myself in the 6+ weeks that I'll be taking off of work to recover.
I have to have my final payment in full sent off to the practice by March 8th, 2019, which gives me about two months. I'm having a lot of feelings about it, and have really been struggling to ask for help. But, I literally don't think I can do this without y'all.
I love y'all. I love y'all so much. Thank you from the bottom of my gaaaay genderweird scorpio heart. Anything you can give is amazing and appreciated.
If you can't give financially, but feel like you want to support me in other ways, please let me know! I am pretty nervous for the surgery and recovery and will probably need things like meals and rides and also just people saying sweet/affirming/supportive things to me and checking in!!
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