Help Me Get A Lawyer

Currently I need a lawyer, and I cannot afford one. The situation is, I need to fight for full custody of my son. I currently have primary placement, but I no longer wish for his father to have any kind of access to him really. I have solid reasoning for this and I will get to that next.

Wednesday morning (9/16,2020), I picked my son up from his father, now generally I wait until after work to pick him up, so I would not usually have gotten him until after 4pm on Wednesday. Well, earlier in the week, there was a situation where he had called me some colorful names, and had openly admitted he had a drug test for some medications he takes, and failed popping positive for Methamphetamine. He then tried to claim that it was because he took Sudafed, an ingredient in meth. I have been told by many professionals now, that that is not how that works and that would not happen. Having this information in hand, I was gathering information on lawyers, because I cannot have a drug addict doing meth around my child. No way no how. So, my petty self told him to have my son ready by 6:30am Wednesday, the day I was due to pick him up from his dads. That is exactly what I did, and be it my pettiness, or divine intervention of sorts, because this is not where the story ends. Now for a little interlude, I am a childcare provider, and my son comes with me to daycare on the days that he is with me, he is 9 with severe adhd, to do his virtual learning. I do not trust him to do his work at home with his older sister. So, he is at daycare in my possession at the time in a form or fashion. I am on my lunch break and I get a weird call that I do not answer because I didn't recognize the number. Checked my messages and it was Madison Police Department SVU, saying it was about my son. Okay, so now I am freaking out, my son is with me, this cannot be real, so I checked the number. It was real. So I call back, the detective thanks me for calling back and tells me, "The reason I am calling is because, your Ex-husband Thomas was arrested this morning on 8 counts of child pornography, possession of drugs and drug paraphernalia." You guys, it was like a bomb was dropped on me and I didn't even know how to respond. I asked a lot of questions and they told me that the was an exorbitant amount of paraphernalia all over the house in common areas that my son would frequent. There was a freaking bong in the bathroom, the detective had said. Now, thankfully after having my son fully checked, there was not drug exposure and he swears up and down that he was not subject to any abuse, or shown any images that are not okay #saveourchildren. I was told by the detective that the National Center For Missing and Exploited Children are the ones who tipped off the Madison PD about the incidents, and that s.w.a.t. was there to help aid in retrieval of evidence as well. At this point, I cannot, I do not understand. It was almost as if my brain had shut down and could not comprehend what was happening in that moment and I broke down. So now, I am trying to do everything in my power to make sure my son is safe, and not in an environment like that. He needs to be in a home, free of drugs, and should not be around the likes of a child predator. Yes, I know innocent until proven guilty, but here is the kicker, in the last month or so, my daughter who despises him was playing tag at the park with friends, and they had just mowed the park grass. She was covered in grass when he passed by to drop my son off at my house, she claims he slowed down and was watching her (creeper), as her two friends were helping dust her off, she also claims he was waiving at her. She has on more than one occasion told him to not contact her and that she wants nothing to do with him. He isn't her father, and she hates him, so this was unwelcomed. The text received from him was, "*Daughter name* is at the park with a couple boys(they were girls), and one of them is smacking her a$$ like she is their hoe." Not sure what type of person compares 3 11 year old children to pimps and hoe's unless they have a weird thing for them. Also he has an ex-girlfriend who has accused him of downloading kiddie porn before as well. Any and all help would be greatly appreciated and I am sorry for the long drawn out story, but I am freaking out and only want what is best for my son.

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