Hi everyone. Welcome to my life. If it can happen, it has happened to me. Last year I lived in Atlanta. Made an excellent salary and lived happily with my husband and two teen aged children. Within the past two years, one of my children attempted suicide. The other one threatened to kill me for not allowing him to deal drugs out of my home. Medical bills and therapy bills and court costs began to add up. But we just kept working to get through. My mother who lived in Jacksonville Florida’s health began to decline. My youngest and oldest sibling both lived near by and assured me she was being taken care of. During one of my visits my mother asked me to take her by her Dr’s office to pick up paperwork describing all of her health issues for my youngest sibling who lived with her at the time, and had recently joined the Navy to give to his commanding officer in hopes he would be stationed near by in order to care for her. This was done, and worked. He was able to secure a position at Mayport Navy base. Within the next few months, he used her money to buy himself a home 45 minutes away, and put her in an independent living facility. My husband and I came to visit shortly after that, and she was miserable. Her health was failing and she was living in filth. She told us that nobody visits and she was lonely. Immediately upon our departure my husband made the decision to take early retirement from his job he had been at for over 25 years and move my mother back into her home and take care of her. He moved in June. I followed in July. I had to leave my career behind. We spent our savings on these two moves and moving her back into her home. We ended up having to file for bankruptcy. But I didn’t care. That was my mother. We were not going to allow her to be alone and ignored. We took care of all her needs. We spoke with all of her doctors. Shortly after our move she was diagnosed with lung cancer. She informed my siblings of her diagnosis. They visited a couple of times here and there but mostly ignored her. We listened to her argue with my youngest sibling about money he was taking from her. On September 2, she passed away. My husband, my daughter, and I were with her. She was not alone. And she passed with dignity. I was inconsolable. My husband refused to leave her side until they came to remove her body. Immediately my siblings started asking about wills and money. A short time after, I was told that she had no will. And that just as recent as May, after she knew that we were planning to move, she changed all of her beneficiary information. In the end, my oldest sibling received a home, my youngest sibling received 200,000 cash, and I received 5,000 dollars. Since there is no will, her current home and car will have to go into probate. My youngest sibling has retained an attorney to help. He is expecting to get the property. I am at a loss. I am devastated that my mother is gone. I am living in her home, and I am left with sorting. Cleaning. Organizing. I do not have money for an attorney. And I don’t have money to move. I have nothing. I don’t even have the emotional support from my mother. Please, if you can find it in your heart, anything you can do to help would be so greatly appreciated.
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