All he wants is to die at home

My name is Kimberly Larsen and have been married to the most wonderful man for over 25 years, Mr. David Larsen. We have a daughter Ashlee who loves and adores her father and is really struggling with everything and cant understand why we cant just go home and dad will be okay? Ashlee although an adult still lives at home. She is a spectal needs young lady who believes that there is good in every body and every situation. So when i told her that her dad was dying she said "No mom, just tell him you don't want him to go. Oh never mind mom i will go tell him". The very sad part about that is that her father got sick about 21/2 years ago with Dementia, and some times he is with us and understands. I really.never know what he is going to say or how he may react. This has been the saddess, most exhausting and truely the lonliest time of my life. To watch the man i love with all my heart a retired Pierce County Sheriff, who love to fish, snow ski and spend time with his family - to the man now where there are some days, he doesnt even know who we are. David, my husband has had one wish throughout his illness, that he has andt hat is to allow him to die in his own home. He was born in this home. His father died there and he said that is our family home and that is what his wish is.This has been very difficult for me to provide to him due to the house being boarded up by Code Enforcement City of Tacoma, for not payment of the power and water bill. When he first got sick i was lost. Of coarse i knew you had to pay bills but that was something he had always handled in our marriage so i really had no idea where to begin or even what bills we had. I wasnt even on the bank account that we paid our bills from. I was so focused on his care and my daughters that i let some things go trying to keep up with his medical needs, paying to have in home care givers, wheel chairs etc. I was struggling just to keep up. So when he became very ill one day i called the aid car he went into the hospital for the first time sense this nightmare began. Ashlee and i were devastated we did not know what to do.The next day the ppl from the city came and gave us 15 minutes to get our things together and be out. That was the last night we had spent in our home "family home" for over 60 years. So we have been homeless ever sense. I have tried to save enough to get home so my husband can spend his last days there and my daughter would not feel so lost. However, I cannot seem to save enough to make it happen by mysel and thats a hard one for me to ask for help. But I cannot pay for places for us to stay and basic living expenses today and save enough to get back into our home at the same time. I have tired for over 6 months now. At one point I was having nursing home costs of 9800 a month, plus I had our daughter to care for. It seemed every time I applied for some type of assistance I would run into a brick wall. Either we made to much money or the program was no longer. At one point I was so happy I finally felt someone was going to help it was to be an energy grant through Metropolitin Developmental Council for close to 1000 but no sooner did they grant it to me, it got denied because they power account had already been closed and it has to be an open account. Another time was when i applied at long term and aging for help with nursing home costs of almost 10,000 per month, they then cut me off of any assistance such as my food stamps because they now say i make to mu h money and I still havent figured that one out, but they still wont give them to me and it goes on abd on. I really need some help here. I owe the power company over 5000 in bills and fines, the city for board up fees and fines of over 4800 and back property tax for this year of 3500. I am going to have a great deal of clean up and repairs once i get the monies to get back in the house. It has been broken into 7 times sense boarded up. I am not even sure what is left in the house as far what has been stolen. I would like to thank you for any help that you can give usThis will allow us to be a family close at home while my husband has his wish of dying in his own home. I will have a place for Hospice to come. This was one of the most difficult things i have ever written. God Bless my prayers are with everyone of you.
Kimberly Larsen
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