Disabled Family Needs Better Home

$40,000 goal

Campaign created 11 months ago
My family is in need of a home that better accommodates their health. My wife has advanced Multiple Sclerosis and as her health continues to deteriorate, our home is falling short of her needs. Every entrance requires steps to access, a task that forces me to sometimes literally lift her legs and place them on each step. Inside the home, there are small steps to enter/exit rooms, thus making wheelchair usage impossible. The home contains one single bathroom, located as far away from the rest of the house as possible, making it difficult for her to reach it in time. Furthermore, as she may spend several hours/day in there, my 15 year old son and I must venture to a place of business or another nearby family home if the need arises.

Speaking of my son, he also suffers in our current home. He is autistic and has never done well in a public school environment. As such, we are forced to homeschool him. However, with a small house, his schooling takes place in our living room/dining room. This is not very conducive to learning. Getting a home that would allow him a separate quiet place to complete his work would be a blessing. We have considered his room, but it barely has room for his bed (he actually sleeps under his hanging clothes), a dresser, and his hand-me-down entertainment center that I bought for $1 back in the 1990s.

If we are blessed enough to raise this money, we have found a home that would accommodate all my family's needs. The house has multiple bedrooms and bathrooms and contains all necessary living on the main floor. It has an open floor plan that would accommodate my wife's continuing needs. 

I am not typically the type to ask for help. As a matter of fact, I really hate doing these things. However, financial issues force me into this spot. We have spent more than a decade pursuing her health issues and her large medical bills have ruined our credit. We bought a used SUV in 2015 (a 2003 GMC Envoy with about 85,000 miles). This was supposed to make getting to doctors (some are 2.5 hours away) much easier. Instead, we have spent more on repairs to the vehicle than we spent to purchase it. The dealership did not stand behind the product. This vehicle is still not driveable, relegating us to a 1999 Buick we bought off my parents.

We have always been forced to sacrifice for the purpose of providing for these growing health issues and the ever increasing cost of homeschool materials. My wife has issues traveling and as such, she never even got a honeymoon. We have taken 2 vacations (never more than a weekend trip) since we got together in 2001. This home would give her the feel like she's on vacation without having to leave home. It's not extravagant mind you, but so accommodating to her needs, it relieves her stress.

My wife applied for Social Security disability payments once. She was initially denied as they stated she could still work. However, the work they stated she could do involved manual labor and long hours on her feet. This causes her to fall (which  she does frequently). We got a lawyer and won the appeal. She received one payment, then they stated she had not worked enough previously to qualify for more money. The problem with this is, the doctors believe she has had this condition her whole life, but was not diagnosed until she was 27. We spent years going to doctors in multiple states, but none could find her issues. I personally was on this journey with her from the age of 19. She did work when she could, even getting fired from one job for falling ill while working split shifts at a nursing home as a CNA trainee.

In order to go grocery shopping today, she must travel roughly 30 minutes each way. Many times with her pain, this is a struggle, causing us to either make multiple trips/week or sometimes go long periods of time without shopping at all, thus forcing me to get creating on cooking ideas to feed the family. We do have a small local store in our town, but their selection is very limited. The new home we have picked out is in a small town (less than 10,000 people) but contains many shopping alternatives within blocks of the house. This would better accommodate her shopping needs. 

Currently, it is also a minimum of 30 minutes to any of her doctors and up to 2.5 hours for others. This move puts many doctors in town and leaves her only an hour away from many medical professionals. 

It should be noted, the asking price for the home is $224,900 but I am willing to pay what I can afford myself. It would mean so much to my family to be able to make this place our forever home. My son is so excited about the idea, he's actually going to post this on his own social media. Getting an autistic son excited about anything can be a challenge, so this is truly something special!

My wife is a very loving and caring person and always wants to help others. It embarrasses her to be the one asking for help, but I've convinced her we must try. If we are able to raise these funds, we will be sure to pass on to others in need and help when/where we can. I firmly believe in passing on your blessings. 

Thank you for reading my story. Whether you choose to help or not, just listening means alot!
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Finally got some great news today! It looks like we are pre-qualified for our home purchase. The only issue now: we are making payments on a home owned by my parents. We need to pay this home off or get it sold!

I have reduced the amount of this campaign to roughly what I think the balance on this home is. Please help us get this home paid off so we can move into a home that meets the needs of my family!
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This week was a rough one. Wife got "stuck" outside when she could not get up the steps into the house. Usually when this happens, I have to manually lift one of her legs up each step but she can get the other one up. This time, she could not get either up. It was pretty tough getting them both up manually while also supporting her back.
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Campaign created 11 months ago
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